Cost of gas vs cost of Friendship?

Take the higher road and don't even bring it up. Next time he invites you on the boat just decline and say your taking you're boat out and don't invite him. He may get the message, he may not. If you go back at him and ask for $ from the first two trips, in his head you become the jerk even though he is.

Let him ponder all of the reasons you don't invite him on the boat anymore and why you decline to go on his. That will drive him more crazy than anything else.:lol:
 
Similar thread to this in THT. Really ignorant of him under the circumstances you described.
Normally, I don't ask for fuel money and usually decline if it's offered. "Using" the boat requires fuel and this is just the cost of owning the boat. I'm going to burn the fuel with or without friends aboard.
With that said, if I pony up a couple of hundred gallons of diesel for an offshore fishing trip, and we decide to do it again a week or two later I'll be up-front about splitting fuel costs.
 
TimC said:
Take the higher road and don't even bring it up. Next time he invites you on the boat just decline and say your taking you're boat out and don't invite him. He may get the message, he may not. If you go back at him and ask for $ from the first two trips, in his head you become the jerk even though he is.

Let him ponder all of the reasons you don't invite him on the boat anymore and why you decline to go on his. That will drive him more crazy than anything else.:lol:
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+1.

Gregg
 
Its moments like you had on the fuel dock after the trip on his boat where you wish you could go back and do over. In hindsite you probably could have walked away with a hundred bucks :smt038

Could have just told him if we are splitting fuel then you owe me $200 from the last 2 trips on my boat, less $100 I owe you on this trip, fork it over buddy :thumbsup::grin:
 
I just can't stand to owe someone and the whole "chip in for fuel" falls into that category for me. We invite friends along to help us enjoy the boat and the enviornment we get to go boating in and we do it because we enjoy their company, not because we need or want their pocket book at the fuel dock. In fact, I don't fuel the boat with friends along just so I can avoid an uncomfortable situation.

So, I'm with Dominic on this one............
 
TimC said:
Take the higher road and don't even bring it up. Next time he invites you on the boat just decline and say your taking you're boat out and don't invite him. He may get the message, he may not. If you go back at him and ask for $ from the first two trips, in his head you become the jerk even though he is.

Let him ponder all of the reasons you don't invite him on the boat anymore and why you decline to go on his. That will drive him more crazy than anything else.:lol:
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+2!
 
Was it Ann Landers who said "no one can take advantage of you without you letting them"? Well it is true. If you like them enough to keep them as friends then you have 3 choices 1) ignore it next time and act as you normally would 2) bill them as they did you or 3) do not invite them again on your boat - when/if they ask why no more invites then be truthful. But don't let them ruin your time on your boat with others. Obviously non boaters have NO idea what a boat costs but a fellow boater should have at least acknowledged/asked
 
I would put a stripper pole on the swim platform and make them work it off.
 
TimC said:
Take the higher road and don't even bring it up. Next time he invites you on the boat just decline and say your taking you're boat out and don't invite him. He may get the message, he may not. If you go back at him and ask for $ from the first two trips, in his head you become the jerk even though he is.

Let him ponder all of the reasons you don't invite him on the boat anymore and why you decline to go on his. That will drive him more crazy than anything else.:lol:
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DING DING DING DING!!!! We have a winner. Spoken like a true gentleman.

+3
 
The Cost of Friendship is the real issue here as far as I am concerned.

As long as you are bothered by them asking for gas money, I'd recommend you don't associate with these folks when you know you might be "expected" to help pay for fuel (in other words stay off their boat).:smt043

Outside of dropping the friendship altogether, there are no other alternatives that I can see.
 
TimC said:
Take the higher road and don't even bring it up. Next time he invites you on the boat just decline and say your taking you're boat out and don't invite him. He may get the message, he may not. If you go back at him and ask for $ from the first two trips, in his head you become the jerk even though he is.

Let him ponder all of the reasons you don't invite him on the boat anymore and why you decline to go on his. That will drive him more crazy than anything else.:lol:
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+4

altho I really wouldn't even care if it drove him crazy or not.

He certainly seems to be more just an acquaintance than a friend. I've friends that while they did not pay for gas, certainly repaid me in other ways and I try to do the same if they won't let me 'pay my way'. As Frank said, it's about enjoying their company, not feeling like you owe someone. He's obviously changed the stakes.
 
I don't ask people to cover the cost of operating my boat b/c it's MY BOAT!

I'm going out regardless of who's on the boat.

If friends come over to the house I don't ask them to "chip in for the mortgage."
 
TimC said:
Take the higher road and don't even bring it up. Next time he invites you on the boat just decline and say your taking you're boat out and don't invite him. He may get the message, he may not. If you go back at him and ask for $ from the first two trips, in his head you become the jerk even though he is.

Let him ponder all of the reasons you don't invite him on the boat anymore and why you decline to go on his. That will drive him more crazy than anything else.:lol:
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+5

If you are really good friends and this is bothering you a lot, be truthful with them, if they don't get the hint. Ask him why he asked for money.
 
I'm with TT, install the pole and make them work it off! :smt043

Actually, a sidebar would be good, everyone has a bad week, and nothing would be left to interpretation (If they get it at all). And if he proves to be an A$$H*LE, at least it would be confirmed. :thumbsup:
 
Next time invite me so I can tell the guy he shouldn't leave the dock if he can't afford to operate the thing. Then you won't feel uncomfortable.
I've never once asked anyone for a dime when I invited them on our boat. My fiance and I do sit back and observe then talk about people after they leave our boat.
Last year we had a couple stay on our boat. Treated them the whole weekend to drinks at a bar etc....When we went to a casual restaurant for dinner he went out of his way to make sure we had seperate checks. We just laugh about things like that.
 
we had a similar situation. We had invited some "friends" out with their children a couple of times and then they asked if they could go with us a couple of times. I never asked or expected funds for gas. However, they also expected us to feed and hydrate them. Not once did they bring anything. The final straw for me was when I was fueling up onthe last trip they asked me to buy their children drinks and snacks at the fuel dock. I did only because my children were there and I didn't want to make a big deal of it in front of the family. I never invited or even mentioned boating to them again.
 
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