failed marriage

OP-everything you outlined regarding your behavior was perfectly reasonable and understandable...however, actions have consequences and this one's on you. There is no such thing as a deal with "you and him" not "you and them". He is a "them" and marriages are tough enough without giving insecure wives an obvious looming threat.

If you want to keep the friend, get your wallet out and make it right. If your wallet is too light, then follow the previous post about apologizing to both of them and letting them find a solution.

Having said that, train wrecks are great theater. If you want to keep up the behavior...invite them back, maintain your current course and speed, and sell tickets.
 
Four Suns said:
Where these the girls you brought back to the boat?

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I would be pissed too...
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Oh! I think I just threw up a little!

I think you should pony up the 2K and add some mirrors to the ceiling of the cabin and get a heart shaped mattress for the V berth! I am amazed you have married friends that have wives that let them near anyone single. Hell, I have married friends whose wives wont let them go out alone without a GPS bracelet.:smt089:lol:

Enjoy being single I say! But keep a good friend cause they are worth more than just 2K!:thumbsup:
 
Who's paying for the stripper pole? You forgot to itemize that. His wife is a buzz kill.
 
Oh to be young and stupod... I think you should let your buddy buy you out... You are too young to have the responsibility of maintaining a boat. It takes almost as much work and money to maintain a boat as it does a wife...
 
As a guy who was for many years considered the "Bad Apple" whose friend's wives cringed everytime they went out with me I can say this. The "bros before ho's" line doesn't fly once they are married. They are a partnership much like your boat owner partnership. The main difference is that his marriage will trump your boating/ friendship every time.

It is apparent that you don't have many friends that are married (especially with kids) and that you don't have a lot of experience dealing with friends that are married or their wives. One of the biggest mistakes in this scenario is not including his wife in the original purchase. She was an outsider from the start (I blame your buddy for that) and your actions never allowed her to feel safe/ comfortable with the situation. If she wasn't a boater before this wasn't a very good introduction and may keep your buddy on dry land for a long time.
All that said- put the boat up for sale. What ever your highest bid is use that as your buyout number and pay him half. I would also split the incidentals because they will stay with the boat.
There is nothing wrong with partying and having a good time. At 36 I still manage to get it done and I am getting married in a few weeks. I have two groups of friends- married with kids and married with no kids (most "single" guys have long time girl friends). When my phone rings from one of my father friends I drop what ever I am doing and head out- they don't get many free nights or weekends so when it's on it's ON! But I understand that their family comes first and party time never interferes with family time. I too hope to have a family soon and I know they will be there to help me along the way since they have a big head start. I always work to butter up their wives because they know when their husband comes home from a night out he is going to be feeling the effects for a couple of days.

I hope your relationship with your friend is salvagable and your boating future is full of fun! and late night swimming trips!
 
I think that the way you boat is your business as long as you're not booxing it up and hitting the high seas putting the rest of us in danger. That said, with that style of freedom and spontaneity and groping naked chicks is great but not condusive to a great boating partnership, especially when the partner has a bride. I say buy them out and have a good time. Maybe Kid Rock would be the only partner you can own a boat with and get along.
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Dissolving a partnership in an asset is easy. Make an offer to buy your buddy out. He has the option to take the offer or pay you that amount to buy you out. Keeps it fair and interesting. Simple.

Pics or a webcam would be nice on the next go round...
 
I believe this boat was a 260, Therefore Gary I think this exceeds max weight capacity........
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All I want to know is where are you on Lake Erie? If you were at the Bay then this is par for the course.

And Swimming this time of year would not be very condusive your game George Costanza
 
Ok..Lets just start with NO KIDS on the boat during this time. Second, if I had the expendable 2k to just cut a check on a 2 day notice I would of already done that. I am a college student and although I do have a decent job that allows me to do more than most in my situation I still dont have the kind of bank account for an overnight 2k expenditure. However I will take the advice that seems to being offered and give him the 2k. As far other costs thats just part of the risk and fun of being a boat owner(some of you have agreed others say try to make him completely whole) He has used the boat last season and at least 2 months of this season. I dont believe someone will come along and make me whole just becuase of what I put into when it comes time for me to sell. As i said above it is not impossible for me to gather this money in a month but it still is an inconvenience and will make me shift a few things around. With 70 gallons of gas a weekend running through the boat I may have to be a dock queen for a few weeks...

Pretty much I would like to thank everyone for your advice..Yes, the girl was hot...Ill find another of similar make and model this weekend and bring back pictures...Yes, I realized in the morning how much **** he was going to catch because of MY actions...Yes I did apologize while talking with him...Yes, im a bit immature but Im sure everyone has been there...Well maybe not Sfergson LoL j/k. I always find your posts to be fair but not always the nicest..Although Im not sure your that far off in this one..The more I read peoples posts i can see where Im an ******* in some of this..well most of this..I will try to get him most of his investiment from the boat back but the 2k is going to be my limit. I have already told him he could list on the open market. Like Todd said maybe he will get the price he wants but mostly quite a few low ballers. I am trying to do the right thing here. Well im glad I could stir the pot up on here..If anyone would like to further question my actions or maturity level please continue...Also to the posters of big girl pictures I guess they need loving too...So keep em coming...Everyone have a great Memorial Day weekend! I'd love to stay in chat but Im going boating!
 
Port clinton, but I have been to the Bay a number of times and yes my shananigins would of been par at best most likely a boogey up there...The swimming was her idea...I only got talked into it when her bra and thong hit the deck...Ill get some pictures this weekend for show and tell...
 
I still think 2k is generous. You should split the CURRENT fair market value with him. What ever someone is willing to pay for the boat is your number and split that. Unless you put in a lot of money in upgrades you can't expect to recoup all of your money from a depreciating asset after a year and a half of ownership. If you want to pay 2 grand out of feeling guilty for being an a-- hole thats ok, but its not a fair number. IMHO
Darren
 
Just cut the boat in half down the middle. You take the side with the steering wheel.
 
sfergson727 said:
I'll have you know that I can still party too! This past weekend, while cranking the stereo to a setting of 20 (out of 40), listening to 'the Blend', I drank two margarita's instead of my usual one.....and I was able to stay awake until 9:45 pm instead of my usual 9:10. And if that makes me a fuddy duddy....uhhh nevermind.
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Mine's usually on 25 out of 50. But it's because I don't hear so well anymore.
 
sfergson727 said:
I'll have you know that I can still party too! This past weekend, while cranking the stereo to a setting of 20 (out of 40), listening to 'the Blend', I drank two margarita's instead of my usual one.....and I was able to stay awake until 9:45 pm instead of my usual 9:10. And if that makes me a fuddy duddy....uhhh nevermind.
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Damn bro! You are a bad ass! :smt043

Doug
 
Dude. WTF were you thinking? You left them alone to get some "quiet time", and then you come back to the boat with a woman and put on a show for them? A 260DA sleeps 2 couples. You and I both know that there really ain't no way to get the kind of privacy you needed to prevent the buddy's wife from getting PO'd. What a dolt.

Tell you what. I'll send you the $2K and be your new partner. You pay the insurance, dock fees, and maintenance. Once or twice a month, I'll fly up and hang out on the boat drinking. You can go out and bring back the hotties for an all nighter. Oh... and you'll need to swear to my admiral that I was there visiting on business if it ever comes up.


I'm kinda finding it hard to believe that I'm your first offer... These guys ARE old.
 
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