* not boat related * When to put manners aside and speak up

I just read the rest of the original post & my family made something called pan rabbit (in a brick) you slice & fry like a pancake with butter & syrup - I love it & miss it

Have your wife send me a brick :thumbsup:

Oh & re gift the fruit to your mother or brother or sister in law :grin:
 
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I have learned after 25 years is, you can throw advice or suggestions out there, but if it doesn't stick, you are better off keeping quiet, especially when it comes to the in-laws.
Happy New Year Everyone
 
Sending food in the mail is a bad idea. Tell her that she needs to make a video of herelf preparing the dish, then make DVDs for the kids/grandkids. Then, when the family is together, make the dish for everyone. (See who eats it).

As for the fruit, does it really go bad? I'm a little surprised. I think I'd slyly let them know that you were disappointed this year because you didn't get to enjoy very much of it because it went bad so quickly.

Tough choice. I agree that it has nothing to do with practicality, but, you can only go so far --- $81 to deliver? Send them Omaha Steaks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
So...Did Presentation get killed by his wife or something?
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Somebody's really bored.
 
Sea Gull said:
I like your rotten fruit/spoiled meat tradition. It is somehow comforting to know what to expect and kind of takes the pressure off the whole gift giving process.

In my family we have a range of economic situations and gift giving at the holidays can be very stressful. We relieved most of the pressure by making a family decision to give modest gifts to the children, but NO GIFTS TO ADULTS. Everyone still gets a birthday present, everyone still gets a mothers/fathers day gift, but we concentrate holiday giving on the kids.
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Im a little late here...

Thats exactly what we do on all sides of the family. We get gifts for the kids, and the adults get to drink while the kids open the presents.

I made some great egg nog mudslides this year. I dont remember what the kids got :huh:
 
Presentation said:
The admiral and I are in a fight / argument. We don’t get in them often. This is the biggest one in years.

I’m here looking for advice.

If you would like to help, please read on…..

I’ll try to set the stage as balanced as I can.

The admiral’s parents, living in Winter Haven Florida send us a box of citrus fruit each year.

They buy it from a place that claims it’s all natural, no sprays are used. Basically the stuff is crap. If it does not have mold growing on it by the time we get it, it does within a day. Out of the box if we consume three grapefruit before we toss the rest that is a good year.

Her parents are far from rich. Paying for this is a lot for them. If that was not enough, their house got broken into and there was a lot of damage and items stolen.

Personally, I don’t expect them to spend any money on us. They simply can’t afford it.

The box of grapefruit and oranges just arrived. They asked us how it was. My wife raved over it, thanking them.

I feel she is doing the wrong thing. Unless we tell them, politely, how bad this stuff is they will continue to spend their limited money on this every year.

OK, now you are current up to last Friday.

Saturday my wife made a food that is a family tradition on her mother’s side, something they call brie. It’s a meat pancake made from ground up butt roast and lots of flower. You make it into brick shaped loafs then cut off a slab and fry it in a pan of cooking oil for breakfast. In my opinion it’s a dry, tasteless thing but how you make it as been passed down her family for generations. My wife’s grandmother taught my wife how to make it before she passed on. Her grandmother never showed my wife’s mom how to make it. As far as I know, my wife’s mother never asked her mom to show her how to make it.

Her Dad does not like the stuff. I have never heard her Mom state an opinion it.

My wife decide to make a few bricks and send them this as a ‘thank you’ for the gift box of rotten citrus they sent us.

The stuff is perishable so she froze it, packed it with ice packs, wrapped it in layers of tin foil and newspaper then put it in a box and last night she sent it to them, Fed-ex, next day air, 10:30 AM delivery at a shipping cost of $81.00.

So, let’s recap. Her parents are spending money to send us stuff that we toss in the trash. As a thank you we are sending them stuff that at best, only one of them may or may not like, that costs $81 just to ship it to them.

I say we should talk to them and stop this from repeating next year.

If this was a one time thing I would not have a issue. From what I can tell, this ‘be polite, even though each person does not want what the other person is doing for them’ is a tradition on my wife’s side.

I’m not asking you to tell me who is right. I don’t think anyone can convince me that I am wrong.

I’m looking for advice on what to do.
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Kind of related....

My folks are poor, living off social security at this point. My dad has medical issues that forced him to quit working last year. Long story, construction/bulldozer guy all his life, has a dead arm now.

Each year they get me a sweater or shirt that I end up giving to Goodwill. Same for the Mrs. We both feel obligated to wear it at some point during the year and then give it away.

I told my wife I did not want them to have to buy us a gift this year, mainly because of their lack of money. She agreed. So I called my folks and told them we do not want them to spend money on a gift for us this year. Know what? They agreed. So, I killed 2 birds with one stone. No more gift that I give away and my parents get to keep their money.
 
mrsrobinson said:
Kind of related....

My folks are poor, living off social security at this point. My dad has medical issues that forced him to quit working last year. Long story, construction/bulldozer guy all his life, has a dead arm now.

Each year they get me a sweater or shirt that I end up giving to Goodwill. Same for the Mrs. We both feel obligated to wear it at some point during the year and then give it away.

I told my wife I did not want them to have to buy us a gift this year, mainly because of their lack of money. She agreed. So I called my folks and told them we do not want them to spend money on a gift for us this year. Know what? They agreed. So, I killed 2 birds with one stone. No more gift that I give away and my parents get to keep their money.
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Luckily, being immature has it's advantages. My mom and mom in law ask what I want for festivus. As a matter of fact, my 12 year old daughter finally had to break it to me there is no Santa:smt089
 
Nothing better than a man who can admit he is immature...that's half the battle! ;-)
 
what ever happened to (its the thought that counts)

if getting 3 grape fruit a year and spending $81 sending a homemade treat to her mom warms a corner of your wife's heart then i think its neat.

you seem to forget that all the while your wife is doing this maybe its way for her to remember fond thoughts of her child hood and stay close to her mom.

if it makes the two of them happy its a small price for you pay.

let it go
 
It's after Little Christmas, the wise men came and went back by a different route already. What the hell is myrrh anyway? This topic is stale.
 
Fetch ND said:
WOW ! that sounds great Mrs. Fetch loves Mudslides & we both love egg nog - any special recipe ?
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My wife is the frozen drink guru, Ill see where she got the recipe though I am sure she concocted it herself as usual! We have a "margaritaville" frozen drink machine, I highly recommend it!
 
rondds said:
It's after Little Christmas, the wise men came and went back by a different route already. What the hell is myrrh anyway? This topic is stale.
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Scrooge.
 
billandamy said:
My wife is the frozen drink guru, Ill see where she got the recipe though I am sure she concocted it herself as usual! We have a "margaritaville" frozen drink machine, I highly recommend it!
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You need to bring that boat South and party with us a few times!
 
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