- Oct 3, 2006
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The admiral and I are in a fight / argument. We don’t get in them often. This is the biggest one in years.
I’m here looking for advice.
If you would like to help, please read on…..
I’ll try to set the stage as balanced as I can.
The admiral’s parents, living in Winter Haven Florida send us a box of citrus fruit each year.
They buy it from a place that claims it’s all natural, no sprays are used. Basically the stuff is crap. If it does not have mold growing on it by the time we get it, it does within a day. Out of the box if we consume three grapefruit before we toss the rest that is a good year.
Her parents are far from rich. Paying for this is a lot for them. If that was not enough, their house got broken into and there was a lot of damage and items stolen.
Personally, I don’t expect them to spend any money on us. They simply can’t afford it.
The box of grapefruit and oranges just arrived. They asked us how it was. My wife raved over it, thanking them.
I feel she is doing the wrong thing. Unless we tell them, politely, how bad this stuff is they will continue to spend their limited money on this every year.
OK, now you are current up to last Friday.
Saturday my wife made a food that is a family tradition on her mother’s side, something they call brie. It’s a meat pancake made from ground up butt roast and lots of flower. You make it into brick shaped loafs then cut off a slab and fry it in a pan of cooking oil for breakfast. In my opinion it’s a dry, tasteless thing but how you make it as been passed down her family for generations. My wife’s grandmother taught my wife how to make it before she passed on. Her grandmother never showed my wife’s mom how to make it. As far as I know, my wife’s mother never asked her mom to show her how to make it.
Her Dad does not like the stuff. I have never heard her Mom state an opinion it.
My wife decide to make a few bricks and send them this as a ‘thank you’ for the gift box of rotten citrus they sent us.
The stuff is perishable so she froze it, packed it with ice packs, wrapped it in layers of tin foil and newspaper then put it in a box and last night she sent it to them, Fed-ex, next day air, 10:30 AM delivery at a shipping cost of $81.00.
So, let’s recap. Her parents are spending money to send us stuff that we toss in the trash. As a thank you we are sending them stuff that at best, only one of them may or may not like, that costs $81 just to ship it to them.
I say we should talk to them and stop this from repeating next year.
If this was a one time thing I would not have a issue. From what I can tell, this ‘be polite, even though each person does not want what the other person is doing for them’ is a tradition on my wife’s side.
I’m not asking you to tell me who is right. I don’t think anyone can convince me that I am wrong.
I’m looking for advice on what to do.
I’m here looking for advice.
If you would like to help, please read on…..
I’ll try to set the stage as balanced as I can.
The admiral’s parents, living in Winter Haven Florida send us a box of citrus fruit each year.
They buy it from a place that claims it’s all natural, no sprays are used. Basically the stuff is crap. If it does not have mold growing on it by the time we get it, it does within a day. Out of the box if we consume three grapefruit before we toss the rest that is a good year.
Her parents are far from rich. Paying for this is a lot for them. If that was not enough, their house got broken into and there was a lot of damage and items stolen.
Personally, I don’t expect them to spend any money on us. They simply can’t afford it.
The box of grapefruit and oranges just arrived. They asked us how it was. My wife raved over it, thanking them.
I feel she is doing the wrong thing. Unless we tell them, politely, how bad this stuff is they will continue to spend their limited money on this every year.
OK, now you are current up to last Friday.
Saturday my wife made a food that is a family tradition on her mother’s side, something they call brie. It’s a meat pancake made from ground up butt roast and lots of flower. You make it into brick shaped loafs then cut off a slab and fry it in a pan of cooking oil for breakfast. In my opinion it’s a dry, tasteless thing but how you make it as been passed down her family for generations. My wife’s grandmother taught my wife how to make it before she passed on. Her grandmother never showed my wife’s mom how to make it. As far as I know, my wife’s mother never asked her mom to show her how to make it.
Her Dad does not like the stuff. I have never heard her Mom state an opinion it.
My wife decide to make a few bricks and send them this as a ‘thank you’ for the gift box of rotten citrus they sent us.
The stuff is perishable so she froze it, packed it with ice packs, wrapped it in layers of tin foil and newspaper then put it in a box and last night she sent it to them, Fed-ex, next day air, 10:30 AM delivery at a shipping cost of $81.00.
So, let’s recap. Her parents are spending money to send us stuff that we toss in the trash. As a thank you we are sending them stuff that at best, only one of them may or may not like, that costs $81 just to ship it to them.
I say we should talk to them and stop this from repeating next year.
If this was a one time thing I would not have a issue. From what I can tell, this ‘be polite, even though each person does not want what the other person is doing for them’ is a tradition on my wife’s side.
I’m not asking you to tell me who is right. I don’t think anyone can convince me that I am wrong.
I’m looking for advice on what to do.
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