Run to the sun!?!?

Ok, coming to my csr family for a little reassurance and a pick me up. As you have read, this week has gone amazingly. We have gotten unbelievable offers, far better than we expected, fell in love with a house and genuinely feel like this was meant to be. Yesterday and today we have been updating some of our family and close friends on our weeks events and apparently most of them thought/hoped we'd "come to our senses" while we were down here and wouldn't actually move. Heather is unaffected by any of it and has really gotten 1000% on board and energized about the move this week, but the sounds of the voices I have been sharing this info with has been beating me up a bit. I am a people pleaser and hate upsetting people and I'm getting a lot of shocked/disappointed responses from people who full well knew why we were coming down this week. So, disappointing all these people along with preparing to give my boss the "official" notice Tomorrow has me feeling a little down, which causes me to second guess myself. Anyone who has followed this thread knows the whole story. Based on the whole story, should I let these feelings of hurting and disappointing people I love get me down or shake my confidence in this move??


Shaun
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You can't live your life for others. You have made the best choice for your and your wife!!!!

Full steam ahead!




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Disapoint them?For living your dream?possibly they are envious ,i doubt they will hate you for it,and it will give them a good reason to go to fla in the winter.Were they disapointed when you were going to move the last time?Are you responsible for thier happiness ?are they responsible for your happiness? I think youve wanted this for a long time and deserve the fruits of your labor and patience!Now about that cockpit l couch.......Glen
 
Shaun, you've gotten the guts to follow a wish/dream to move. If this was one of my staff and they came to me with the news of moving, I would hate the loss but support them in every way I could. I've never moved more than 100miles from my birth place. Moving from here would scare the stuffing out of me. This is a chance to start anew, the wife is on board, and SeaRays of our age need deep waters. Run to the sun, and swim in it's waters. It's a second chance, run with it!
 
Family may have some difficulty with you moving across the country. Proximity that is no further than "come over and grill a steak close", is one thing, Florida isn't that close, so those folks will require some 'selling', but they will want what is best for you and, while they may not like it , they will get with the program at some point. Of the others making you feel down, your true friends, will also want what is best for you......fulfilling a life long dream/hope is part of that......they will wish you the best and support you and will stay in touch, visit when they can, call probably more often than you need.....but they will help you adjust by just being there for you.

On the other hand, friends who are giving you a hard time, calling you nuts, etc. is another matter. They probably aren't close friends.......like pick you up at the airport at 3AM close.......and who really cares what they say. Just tell 'em: "Thanks for your input, but his is a life long dream for my wife and I, and we are going to give it a try", and move on.............


Good luck with the relocation..........and be sure you find out the down sides of living in Central Fla. before you pull the trigger.
 
1956olds said:
Disapoint them?For living your dream?possibly they are envious ,i doubt they will hate you for it,and it will give them a good reason to go to fla in the winter.Were they disapointed when you were going to move the last time?Are you responsible for thier happiness ?are they responsible for your happiness? I think youve wanted this for a long time and deserve the fruits of your labor and patience!Now about that cockpit l couch.......Glen
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They seem more disappointed this time, but I think they assumed they wouldn't have to think about it again because they assumed we were staying so its more surprising to some of them this time. You make great points about being responsible for their happiness and this is very similar to the things heather is telling me. I just needed to hear it from someone who wasn't directly affected or connected to the situation. One thing I'm not afraid of upsetting people on is my lounger, so don't hold your breath on that one! ;)


Shaun
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MonacoMike said:
Not much to add to what the other guys have said. You and Heather are in our thoughts and prayers. Get in touch if you wish.

MM
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Thanks for the call and pep talk Mike. Helped a lot!!!


Shaun
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Shaun,

I understand what you are going through. I moved at young age to Atlanta for a short time ( It wasn't for me). Although I wasn't gone very long, I still left with the intentions of staying. I missed my friends and family immensely because I was young. You are older and wiser this time around and have your wife who is fully behind the move. You and her ultimately are the only ones you have to be true to. Follow your dreams if it what you guys want, and from this thread it sounds like it is. FWIW: When I left, my family and friends were mostly supportive, while professing how much they would miss me. I think these are just standard emotions you will have to deal with when relocating so far from your roots. Good Luck to both of you.


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Gosh Shaun, you have to live your life for yourself and your wife, it's what you both want here not anyone else. If you both want this then you have to do it, otherwise you will wonder forever. Plus true friends will want you to be happy, you can't live your life for them! My family and I can also assure you that some folk do get envious when they know you are going to live in FL:) Family never really want anyone to move, but again if they care enough they won't stand in your way either. Goodness me it's not as if you are moving here without good job offers (like we had to). You have it all going for you, you are VERY lucky that you both have needed skills here. Family and true friends will come visit you, and you will make new friends too.

If we had not chosen the mid west coast to live we liked Stuart and Melbourne on the east side so think you have made a good choice there. Living in FL in the summer is hot but it can be as hot as hell up north too in places. Our son, who I suspect is about your age, has moved with his job in the USCG a few times and always says the same thing to us, he's so pleased we decided to move to FL it's the best thing we ever did and how much he just loves it when he gets posted back to live here. Like us he loves to boat and this is the place my friend. Just do it! And come visit us over here when you're settled in, we'll get him over too:) No more self doubt! That's an order:)
 
Simple as this my man....you are moving to Florida, they will all want to come and visit, and then stay themselves. Your dilemma will be how to keep the entire clan from moving in with you, if not this winter then by next for sure.

Shaun, consider yourself to be the trend setter, not the tradition breaker and I am telling you, Heather already looks like a beach chick so don’t leave her at the dock. Like we talked at dinner, quietly reach up and take a hold of the rear view mirror and gently snap it off, then throw the fricking thing out the window. Take the tires off and replace them with props, now push the throttles forward....you're at the helm on this trip Captain S. now drive the damn thing!!!!

As Fate will have it….and by God, she will have it every time!

You’re my Hero Shaun, wish I could be like you.

R
 
rusty higgins said:
Simple as this my man....you are moving to Florida, they will all want to come and visit, and then stay themselves. Your dilemma will be how to keep the entire clan from moving in with you, if not this winter then by next for sure.

Shaun, consider yourself to be the trend setter, not the tradition breaker and I am telling you, Heather already looks like a beach chick so don’t leave her at the dock. Like we talked at dinner, quietly reach up and take a hold of the rear view mirror and gently snap it off, then throw the fricking thing out the window. Take the tires off and replace them with props, now push the throttles forward....you're at the helm on this trip Captain S. now drive the damn thing!!!!

As Fate will have it….and by God, she will have it every time!

You’re my Hero Shaun, wish I could be like you.

R
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More nuggets of wisdom by the great Captain! Thanks Rusty, and everyone else. After reading your comments, some discussion with Heather and a great conversation with MM I woke up feeling a lot better and more at peace. Now I wait to board the plane to head back to MI....for the last time being a return flight! See ya in a couple weeks FL!!


Shaun
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Stay down there a few more days, There's a cold snap coming thru 8°F.
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Lucky's said:
Ok, coming to my csr family for a little reassurance and a pick me up. As you have read, this week has gone amazingly. We have gotten unbelievable offers, far better than we expected, fell in love with a house and genuinely feel like this was meant to be. Yesterday and today we have been updating some of our family and close friends on our weeks events and apparently most of them thought/hoped we'd "come to our senses" while we were down here and wouldn't actually move. Heather is unaffected by any of it and has really gotten 1000% on board and energized about the move this week, but the sounds of the voices I have been sharing this info with has been beating me up a bit. I am a people pleaser and hate upsetting people and I'm getting a lot of shocked/disappointed responses from people who full well knew why we were coming down this week. So, disappointing all these people along with preparing to give my boss the "official" notice Tomorrow has me feeling a little down, which causes me to second guess myself. Anyone who has followed this thread knows the whole story. Based on the whole story, should I let these feelings of hurting and disappointing people I love get me down or shake my confidence in this move??


Shaun
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You are doing the right thing for you two. BTW....it's about you two! Life is short and you two need to live how and where you want. Go for it Brother!....Mike.
 
Well we're 1 week out! Next Monday at 8am we plan on heading out. I THINK we have our bases covered. Been a struggle with my boat storage guy the last couple weeks but I've got him ready to go, new camper top will be done Friday, then all canvas is coming off Saturday for shrink wrapping. We have a lunch date with MM and admiral in Indy, meeting with Matthewmiller in Knoxville to drop off some boat parts and then have a "pet friendly" hotel booked in Chattanooga, TN for that evening. Plan is to make the hotel Monday night and our house by Tuesday night. Movers coming Weds morning and the boat is scheduled to arrive Thursday. Boat is having the bottom painted and hull compounded/waxed Friday and while that's going on I will be mounting my new Hurleys and Perko flush kits. IF everything goes as scheduled she'll be launched Saturday sometime. That the update and tentative schedule for now. Time will tell how it all comes together.....


Shaun
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Shaun, I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU AND THE WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck to ya man :thumbsup:
 
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