Family tragedy

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by sfergson727, Dec 13, 2017.

  1. blaster

    blaster Active Member

    May 23, 2011
    potomac river
    2010 sea ray 205 sport
    F150 5.4 xlt 4x4
    Mercruiser 4.3 mpi alpha 1.62
    Scott, I lost my sister Rachel to suicide in 2001. It hurts to this day. The pain fades and I have tried to focus on all of the positive things she brought to my life and to our family. I feel empathy and sorrow for those left behind, especially the children. As a family you can find comfort in one another. There will be a time to be angry with those complicit in her action but for now take time to remember all the good she brought to the earth. My deepest condolences are with you.
     
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  2. kysearay

    kysearay Active Member

    132
    Jun 15, 2017
    KY
    42 Sundancer
    8.1's gassers

    Scott,
    I am in Louisville and if there is anything you ever need from this part of the world, please let me know - prayers my friend to your family and you!!
    chris
     
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  3. Tonka Boater

    Tonka Boater Active Member

    Jun 11, 2008
    Wayzata, MN
    1997 232 BR
    502 MAG, Bravo I
    Scott, I'm so sorry for your loss. I dealt with this same thing earlier this year. On June 2nd, my 21 year old nephew took his life the same way as your sister. It's horrific and the scars really don't heal when a life ends this way.

    Nick was very close to us and lived with us for a few summers watching our boys over summer vacation. He suffered from depression too and his experience with the clinical side was much like you described. He was in therapy and they recently switched his meds when it happened. My sister found her only son they way your father found his daughter. No note, no real explanation.

    My sister, brother in law, and niece are still dealing with it like it happened yesterday. I'm on a business trip right now and I talked to my sister for an hour while driving to meet a client the other day. Everyone wants to help but there's nothing you can do...she just wants to go back in time. To hug her son one more time. Ugh...it's heart breaking.

    Mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of. If anyone here is dealing with depression, anxiety, bi-polar disorder, etc. --- talk to someone. Anyone. People will listen.

    We're all here for you, Scott.
     
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  4. Strypes

    Strypes Member

    718
    Dec 10, 2015
    Catawba Island
    12 Meter Trojan International Motor Yacht
    210 Sea Fox Center Console
    Avon 3.11 RIB
    454 Crusaders
    V6 Mercury Saltwater 150HP
    4 Stroke 5HP Mercury
    Condolences.
     
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  5. Woody

    Woody Well-Known Member

    Nov 20, 2007
    N. Wisconsin/Lk Superior
    2005 420DA
    Cummins 6CTA8.3
    Scott, I don't have the words that would give much comfort, I wish i did.
     
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  6. copb8tx

    copb8tx Well-Known Member

    Jan 26, 2008
    Lake Texoma, TX
    2005 420 Sundancer
    T-8.1S Horizons
    That's horrible news. Sorry for your loss and struggle. Our thoughts are with you and you family.
     
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  7. SillyKnot2

    SillyKnot2 Member

    189
    Mar 30, 2008
    VT
    1998 370DA
    454's
    Scott you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
     
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  8. Pyrojodge

    Pyrojodge Active Member TECHNICAL Contributor

    May 1, 2011
    Lake Erie Ohio
    1989 Sea Ray 340 DA
    twin 454 Mercs
    Scott,

    I am very sad to hear of this. I have had many sleepless nights worrying about my younger sister. She has had to deal with depression and bullying in school. She tried to take her life by taking pills and even had it up on YouTube for her bullies to see that she was giving up. It took me over three weeks to get the video down. There are many problems with our beloved country and dealing with depression seems to be one of them. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that the children can find peace in their lives as I can't imagine the pain they are experiencing. I wish your family the best...
     
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  9. MonacoMike

    MonacoMike Well-Known Member

    Sep 15, 2009
    Indiana lakes and Lake Michigan
    2000 Cruisers 3870
    97 270 Sundancer
    85 Sea Ray Monaco 197
    8.2 Mercs,
    7.4 BII
    260hp Alpha 1
    I lack the words to convey how deeply we feel for you and your family, including your father whom I was privileged to meet just this summer. God's love to you and your family and an extra helping to the children that lost their mother!

    MM & Admiral
     
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  10. fr8dog

    fr8dog Active Member

    252
    May 25, 2012
    Florida
    460 Sundancer 2005
    Cummins 480 CE
    Scott, IPA brother here. You need anything, let me know!!!
     
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  11. Kameroo

    Kameroo Member

    683
    Feb 1, 2007
    Louisville, KY
    12' Kayaks
    Human
    Scott, talked with you just before you left for Fresno. Hard to believe how fast things can unexpectedly change in our lives. You've got a lot of friends here and in your extended community, so feel free to reach out if you need anything. Words cannot express our deepest sympathies for you and your family.
     
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  12. Havana Shamrock

    Havana Shamrock Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    Sep 9, 2008
    Long Island.
    2005 500DB
    QSM11's,
    Honda 30HP
    Sea Doo 90 HP H.O.
    Omg, may she Rest In Peace. Nothing else I can say.
     
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  13. sfergson727

    sfergson727 Administrator TECHNICAL Contributor PLATINUM Sponsor

    Oct 12, 2007
    Washington Park Marina, Michigan City
    '07 340 DA, E97, A75, VV4, Soft Top
    '12 Boston Whaler 15 Montauk
    8.1 Mercruiser V-Drives, Mercury 60 HP Bigfoot
    Thank you everyone for sharing your prayers, thoughts and experiences. In times like these it definitely helps to know you are not alone and I am most appreciative of all of you. We had the services for my sister yesterday, and now are trying to pick up the pieces with the kids.

    Thanks again,
    Scott

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  14. sfergson727

    sfergson727 Administrator TECHNICAL Contributor PLATINUM Sponsor

    Oct 12, 2007
    Washington Park Marina, Michigan City
    '07 340 DA, E97, A75, VV4, Soft Top
    '12 Boston Whaler 15 Montauk
    8.1 Mercruiser V-Drives, Mercury 60 HP Bigfoot
    That is heartbreaking. I am very sorry to hear about your nephew.
     
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  15. sfergson727

    sfergson727 Administrator TECHNICAL Contributor PLATINUM Sponsor

    Oct 12, 2007
    Washington Park Marina, Michigan City
    '07 340 DA, E97, A75, VV4, Soft Top
    '12 Boston Whaler 15 Montauk
    8.1 Mercruiser V-Drives, Mercury 60 HP Bigfoot
    I'm sorry to hear this as well. Seems that many of us have been touched by tragedy brought on from mental illness/depression. I hope sometime, our medical community finds a better way to treat those afflicted with it. I know in my sister's case, she was turned away four times from a crisis center because they only took 4 people per day.
     
  16. PlayDate

    PlayDate Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    Dec 25, 2006
    Washington DC
    1994 370 Express Cruiser
    454 Mercruisers
    Scott,

    I'm so sorry to hear that happened. My heart goes out to you and your family.

    These things are toughest on the children. If you know of a licensed psychologist who specializes in helping families deal with grief it can make a huge difference not only now but how they process it in the future.

    John
     
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  17. Timeflys

    Timeflys Member

    174
    Dec 7, 2013
    Thousand Islands, Ontario, Canada
    "Frequent Flyer"
    2002 Sundancer 360
    Merc Horizon 8.1s
    Scott, so sorry to hear of this tragedy..my thoughts are with you.
     
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  18. lawndoctor

    lawndoctor Member SILVER Sponsor

    338
    Jun 5, 2008
    Chesapeake Bay & Philadelphia
    2009 330 Sundancer & 2002 225 Weekender
    8.1L V-Drives & Bravo III 5.0L
    Scott, I am so sorry to hear of your terrible loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I lost my brother to suicide, and he was turned away from treatment, so I have a sense for what you all are going through. My two nephews (his sons) and I have become very close and we talk about it often, which has been a help. Sending you best wishes for overcoming this tragedy as we get ready to start a new year.
     
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  19. Henry Boyd

    Henry Boyd Well-Known Member

    Apr 24, 2007
    Newburyport, on the peaceful and serene Merrimack
    02' 280 DA
    496 w BIII
    Scott,
    I just logged on after being away for a while and saw the news. I wish I had the ability to provide the words that could ease this terrible thing, I don't, and I'm so very sorry. I do know were I to be faced with the loss of my baby sister I would be devastated. If there is anything you need don't hesitate to reach out.

    Henry
     
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  20. keokie

    keokie Well-Known Member

    Dec 27, 2006
    Arizona
    2002 310 Sundancer, Westerbeke 4.5 Genset
    496's, Bravo III's, 2.2:1 Gears
    Scott,

    I'm so sorry. Had to wipe the tears from my eyes to finish reading your post.

    Depression is an awful, awful affliction. Too many fight so valiantly, but still lose. Any way that death takes a loved one is absolutely terrible, and I think that suicide may be the worst.

    My prayers for you, your family, and your sister.

    Remember to try to eat food, drink water, and get any few minutes of rest when you can.

    God bless you and your family.
     
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