Family tragedy

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by sfergson727, Dec 13, 2017.

  1. LTD.330

    LTD.330 Member SILVER Sponsor

    999
    Oct 5, 2009
    Lake Erie
    1999 Sundancer 330
    7.4 MPI
    Praying for you and your family Scott.
     
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  2. sdarc

    sdarc Active Member

    Dec 20, 2010
    Piedmont NC
    Boatless
    Boatless
    Very sorry to hear this Scott. Prayers.
     
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  3. northshore

    northshore Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    Jan 17, 2011
    Cleveland, OH
    1989 340 Sundancer
    Raymarine E90W Radar/Chartplotter
    Twin 454 Mercruiser 340's
    Very sorry to hear about this Scott.
    Thoughts and prayers out to you and your family.
     
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  4. paulswagelock

    paulswagelock Active Member

    Oct 25, 2010
    pa
    2018 SDX 270 OB on order
    Sold 2008 270 SLX 496 mag bravo 3
    Verado 300 pro
    Former 8.1 496 / bravo III
    i am very sorry for your loss. I understand the pain you are feeling. Stay strong.
     
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  5. villain style

    villain style Active Member SILVER Sponsor

    Oct 10, 2006
    Mears Point Marina Kent Island, MD
    2006 340 Sundancer
    Merc 8.1L's V-Drives
    Sorry to hear this Scott - Prayers to you and family....
     
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  6. CliffA

    CliffA Well-Known Member GOLD Sponsor

    Dec 29, 2009
    Lake Norman, NC
    2001 Sea Ray 340DA
    Name: 'Happy Place'
    4.5kW West. Generator
    Purchased Nov. 2014
    Fresh Water Use
    Twin Merc. 6.2L (MPI)
    Raw Water Cooled
    V-Drive Transmissions
    very sorry to hear this Scott....I know your pain all to well...we have lost a few family members during the past year as well....

    stay strong my friend....

    cliff
     
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  7. dwna1a

    dwna1a Active Member GOLD Sponsor

    Apr 23, 2012
    James River
    88 Weekender 300 "Seahorse"
    Twins 350
    Very sorry Scott. Our prayers to you and your family.
     
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  8. Pyrojodge

    Pyrojodge Active Member TECHNICAL Contributor SILVER Sponsor

    May 1, 2011
    Lake Erie Ohio
    1989 Sea Ray 340 DA
    twin 454 Mercs
    Sorry to read this Scott and Family... you're in my prayers...
     
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  9. chuck1

    chuck1 Super Moderator TECHNICAL Contributor PLATINUM Sponsor

    Oct 3, 2006
    North GA Mountains
    Looking For Next One
    Looking For Next One
    Sorry to hear my friend. Will keep you and yours in our prayers.
     
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  10. sfergson727

    sfergson727 Administrator TECHNICAL Contributor PLATINUM Sponsor

    Oct 12, 2007
    Washington Park Marina, Michigan City
    '07 340 DA, E97, A75, VV4, Soft Top
    '12 Boston Whaler 15 Montauk
    8.1 Mercruiser V-Drives, Mercury 60 HP Bigfoot
    Thank you everyone. On Tuesday afternoon, my sister put a gun in her mouth and pulled the trigger. My Dad was the first to find her about four hours after she did it. I was away on a trip at the time, fortunately my employer cut me loose from the rest of it after flying back to Louisville (they would have airlined me home from Fresno, but the quickest way to get back to my car was to operate the trip.) After driving to my Dad's house, I spent the rest of the day helping him with the arrangements. (Learned way more than I ever wanted to know about the clean up after something like that)

    Anyway, I finally got home yesterday and got some sleep after being awake for 36 hours. Now it is just a matter of getting through the memorial service this weekend and spending healing time with family. This is going to take a long time to get over, especially for my father, whose last image of his daughter...well, you can use your imagination. (I accidentally walked into the room where she did it, what I saw will haunt me for the rest of my life, I can't imagine what he is dealing with)

    Anyway, my sister Erin was 44, recently divorced and had 4 children. Two of the kids are grown and out of the house, the other two are about the same age as my two kids (10 and 14). I am most worried about them, hopefully as a family we can provide them with comfort and love which they will no longer get from their mother.

    She had been dealing with depression since her teens, and frustratingly the medical system failed her. Every time she sought treatment, they would throw pills at her and turn her loose. Recently she went to a crisis center on four separate occasions and was turned out the door each time, since they only took 4 patients per day. I find I have a lot of anger directed at the medical system and specifically Don's Guns in Indy, who sold her a handgun on the 26th of November. At the time, she was distraught and barely able to function, yet somehow, they sold her a gun....

    Anyway, thanks for the prayers and well wishes, I appreciate it. Please feel free to post experiences with depression and suicide, maybe we all can learn something from this tragedy.

    God Bless,
    Scott
     
  11. NotHerDecision

    NotHerDecision Active Member PLATINUM Sponsor GOLD Sponsor

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    Jun 28, 2016
    Houston, Texas
    2001 Sea Ray 460 Sundancer
    2014 Seadoo 155 LTD
    2105 Seadoo 130 SE
    2013 Mercury Dinghy
    Cummins 6CTA 8.3L
    Scott

    I cannot imagine, I'm sure none of us can. All I can say is we are more than willing to provide support any way possible knowing it wouldn't be sufficient know matter what. So sorry for your loss and your family's loss.

    Josh
     
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  12. LTD.330

    LTD.330 Member SILVER Sponsor

    999
    Oct 5, 2009
    Lake Erie
    1999 Sundancer 330
    7.4 MPI
    Oh my God Scott, I cannot imagine the pain and grief your family is suffering. My family will be praying for your family.
     
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  13. Gofirstclass

    Gofirstclass Well-Known Member GOLD Sponsor

    Apr 20, 2010
    Tri Cities, WA
    1995 550 Sedan Bridge,
    2010 Boston Whaler 130 Super Sport,
    1981 Boston Whaler 130 Sport,
    CAT 3406C's, 580hp.
    Scott, when I was a cop I had to interact with family members of loved ones who committed suicide or died by the hands of another. I feel your pain and it's a pain only time will soften.

    I hope you can find comfort in knowing that all of us in your boating family have you and your family in our prayers. Take time with the grief and healing. They take time and should not be short cut.
     
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  14. NorCal Boater

    NorCal Boater Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    Jan 24, 2008
    Covington, LA
    Cobalt CM23
    GM SB 383" Stroker" Alpha Gen I
    Scott,

    What you and your family are going through right now is unimaginable and I cannot even begin to imagine the pain and frustration for you and your family. The demons your sister were dealing with are unexplained and sounds like she has been fighting a battle for a long time. Hopefully she has found the peace she was seeking.

    Take care of the family and allow everyone the time and space to deal with the grief in their own way. And don't rule out professional counseling. It can work wonders.

    God Bless....
    Shawn
     
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  15. Jimmy Buoy

    Jimmy Buoy Active Member

    Dec 3, 2008
    Sarnia, Ontario, Canada
    340 Amberjack
    twin 8.1S 370 Hp + 4.5 Westerbeke Genset
    Scott,

    Thanks for being able to share such a personal event with your friends here at CSR. I hope it helps knowing we all support you as much as possible. Although your lives will be forever changed, you and your family WILL get through this.
     
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  16. SCORPIO

    SCORPIO Active Member SILVER Sponsor

    Apr 7, 2008
    Delaware
    1989 300 DA
    Twin 5.7 Merc Alpha I
    I can't imagine what you are going thru Scott. I know it took a lot to put your experience out here for all to see. Please know that this community grieves with you and is here for you as you begin the long process of coping . Don't neglect yourself during this process. Seek counsel if you need to. God bless.
     
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  17. Gimme Time

    Gimme Time Member

    688
    Jan 7, 2007
    Charlottesville, VA./ Deltaville, VA
    2006 52SB, Ray Marine E120, Garmin 7612 through BOE site sponsor,
    QSM11s
    Scott, I can only say I’m so sorry the system failed and all of us here at CSR would, will do almost anything we can to help. This unfortunately touches all of us and while we can’t stop the pain we can and will be there for you and your family in thought & prayer as this takes a long long time to begin to heal as things will never be the same. God bless you and your family and we’re all pulling for all of you.
     
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  18. FootballFan

    FootballFan Well-Known Member GOLD Sponsor

    Jun 20, 2012
    Florida
    Marquis 59
    MTU Series 60
    Scott,

    Words fail me.

    Sometimes life's events are overwhelming. It becomes one day at a time.

    Praying for there to be some type of peace that your family can find at some point. It will take time.

    Anything I can do for you or your family let me know.

    Mark
     
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  19. boatman37

    boatman37 Member

    734
    Jun 6, 2015
    pittsburgh
    1986 Sea Ray 250 Sundancer
    5.7 Merc
    So sorry for your loss. Hope the best for you and your family, especially her children.
     
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  20. cod

    cod Member GOLD Sponsor

    664
    Nov 25, 2010
    Naples, Fl.
    2005 500 Sedan Bridge/
    Cummins QSM 11's/
    So sorry for your loss. May your sister finally Rest In Peace...... She probably suffered more than anyone realized.......Depression is a horrible disease and not a choice......So sad... I hope her ex husband is a good father...That's what those kids need the most right now..... peace be with you during this difficult time..........
     
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