Ever feel like Marie Antoinette ??

[moparlvr4406]

Right now I do and it sucks
I really want to celebrate the purchase of my 340 with many friends and co-workers
but most don't even know I bought it ( some don't know I was looking).
From thier own lack of planning and personal and financial
indescretions they live paycheck to paycheck or just can't pay thier bills at all.
How does one be proud of accomplishments without seeming to be rubbing it in that you
have made yourself more sucessful in planning and saving and making the right investments while working hard every day rather than playing around and missing work for no good reason.

Do ya just say ...."Let them eat cake" or keep the news to yourself ???

 

[Pyrojodge]

I have had the same issues, some will be jelous of the decision you made and if they are the H3LL with them. you cant fix stupid so dont let the ones with poor finacial planning ruin your great new toy. congrats and hope you really enjoy her.

 

[moparlvr4406]

I have had the same issues, some will be jelous of the decision you made and if they are the H3LL with them. you cant fix stupid so dont let the ones with poor finacial planning ruin your great new toy. congrats and hope you really enjoy her.

Most of them thought the 240 was a yacht ... I will definitely enjoy the extra realestate on the 340.

 

[Pyrojodge]

http://clubsearay.com/showthread.php/47865-Am-I-an-Moron-or-what?highlight=

had similar issues.

 

[islandhopper00]

Don't worry about the haters, we here on CSR are happy for you. Sometimes you have to recognize the people whom you used to hang out with, you are leaving behind. It's their own fault. Winners strive to get better. Congratulations on the new to you 340!!

 

[dothanfrogman@gmail.com]

It's called jealousy and envy. I don't own a huge boat, but I have a large camper and comfortable house. All paid for by blood sweat and tears. Could I get a bigger boat, yes but I don't finance. Point is, if they make you feel bad for your accomplishments, tell them to F off. I have had to do that to several "friends". It hurt at the moment but at the end of the day I am better off. Congrats on the 340.

 

[Ten Years Gone]

Jim, there will always be people who despise you for what you have, in spite of the fact that they themselves could have the same things in life if they simply put forth a modicum of effort. We live in a society of people who have been trained to believe that because they were born, they deserve everything that others have.

I have experienced the very thing you are speaking of, and I've learned to distance myself from folks who have an "I" mentality. Only through careful consideration of the types of behaviors and attitudes you tolerate from others, will you begin to be truly comfortable with your position in life. I learned to not make excuses for myself when times were tough and I had to struggle to make ends meet; and in turn I do not defend myself against the thinly veiled accusations from idiots who opine I don't deserve the bounty that I now enjoy. My father used to say, "Don't envy people for what they have, instead study them and learn what made them successful." That wisdom is spot on, but unfortunately, his words are considered antiquated by most in this country today.

To answer your last question directly...my advise is to share the fruits of your labor with only those who appreciate and recognize the very effort that it takes to accomplish those goals. The people who whine and complain should not participate in the enjoyment of your recent purchase. And BTW, congratulations! I hope I get to see you and the new toy on Monroe this summer!

 

[RollerCoastr]

If I had a chance to do it over again, I'd NEVER use the word "boat". I'd name her "The Lawn", and tell non-boating friends and co-workers that I'm going out on, or working on, "The Lawn" and leave it at that!

 

[BritLady]

Jim, there will always be people who despise you for what you have, in spite of the fact that they themselves could have the same things in life if they simply put forth a modicum of effort. We live in a society of people who have been trained to believe that because they were born, they deserve everything that others have.

I have experienced the very thing you are speaking of, and I've learned to distance myself from folks who have an "I" mentality. Only through careful consideration of the types of behaviors and attitudes you tolerate from others, will you begin to be truly comfortable with your position in life. I learned to not make excuses for myself when times were tough and I had to struggle to make ends meet; and in turn I do not defend myself against the thinly veiled accusations from idiots who opine I don't deserve the bounty that I now enjoy. My father used to say, "Don't envy people for what they have, instead study them and learn what made them successful." That wisdom is spot on, but unfortunately, his words are considered antiquated by most in this country today.

To answer your last question directly...my advise is to share the fruits of your labor with only those who appreciate and recognize the very effort that it takes to accomplish those goals. The people who whine and complain should not participate in the enjoyment of your recent purchase. And BTW, congratulations! I hope I get to see you and the new toy on Monroe this summer!

Spot on! We have had the same issues too, we took a really big risk in giving up a secure position for the risk of our own biz here and an awful lot of hard work which has paid off. Have to say we have noticed a tremendous difference in the attitude of folk over the years since moving here in 1991...now it's more like it was back home in Europe....gimmie, gimmie, gimmie. Congrats on the new ride, enjoy the fruits of your labors, dont worry about them and those that make nasty comments do what I do, just ask if they like "sex and travel"

 

[just me]

Yeah , just share it with us , we think your boats cool , really cool

 

[JimFromMD]

Just my .02. I was feeling the same way being a younger single guy with a nice boat. Only a close coworker or two knew what was going on as I looked at and surveyed a few boats before getting this one. I didnt really bring it up outside that circle until the deal was done. Then I changed my desktop background and screensaver to a nice picture of my new pride n joy. If someone mentioned it or asked... I'd talk about it... but didnt go around bringing it up on my own.

 

[moparlvr4406]

Spot on! We have had the same issues too, we took a really big risk in giving up a secure position for the risk of our own biz here and an awful lot of hard work which has paid off. Have to say we have noticed a tremendous difference in the attitude of folk over the years since moving here in 1991...now it's more like it was back home in Europe....gimmie, gimmie, gimmie. Congrats on the new ride, enjoy the fruits of your labors, dont worry about them and those that make nasty comments do what I do, just ask if they like "sex and travel"

you Brits are Sooooo polite...I love it :lol:

 

[blaster]

What kind of friends are they if they are jealous of your position? If someone is upset by your success it's their problem. If they aren't mature enough to be happy for you regardless of their own position then that's a tainted so called friend and not anyone to get upset over.

I cut those people out of my life and value my real friends few as they may be. Time changes things and those who choose not to keep up are left behind. I'm sure you will make new quality friends at the marina and the water who will empathize with your position.

 

[Tonka Boater]

I have a different yet similar issue.... In addition to co-owning the #1 app for boaters at www.boatingsuite.com (shameless plug), I am also a business and management consultant. My consulting projects last for months or years and I get to know my clients personally as well as professionally. Because of this I rarely mention boating to them because it gives the impression that they are paying me too much. I took some clients out on my old 280DA and they, too, thought it was a yacht. It was intended as a goodwill gesture and a way to thank them but all it did was raise eyebrows. That was the last time I've taken clients out. I'm shopping for a new/used Sea Ray in the 34'-40' range and I can't share it with anyone at my client's site. Bummer.

 

[JimFromMD]

I have a different yet similar issue.... In addition to co-owning the #1 app for boaters at www.boatingsuite.com (shameless plug), I am also a business and management consultant. My consulting projects last for months or years and I get to know my clients personally as well as professionally. Because of this I rarely mention boating to them because it gives the impression that they are paying me too much. I took some clients out on my old 280DA and they, too, thought it was a yacht. It was intended as a goodwill gesture and a way to thank them but all it did was raise eyebrows. That was the last time I've taken clients out. I'm shopping for a new/used Sea Ray in the 34'-40' range and I can't share it with anyone at my client's site. Bummer.

We are in the same "boat"... Luckily for me, I cannot / haven not invited my clients out due to government regulations and appearances of trying to win favors etc. Or at least that's my long running excuse. "I asked my company, and while perhaps a gray area, they advised me against it due to even the perception of bad behavior contractually. Especially since there are re-competes on the horizion."

 

[Gunn]

I have a different yet similar issue.... In addition to co-owning the #1 app for boaters at www.boatingsuite.com (shameless plug),

You should say "the 1 app for boaters on iPhone" or iWhatever. I've looked at your app and so wish I could have it, but I really need you to port it to Android so I can have it on my Galaxy! And no, I'm not giving that up. :smt001

Back on topic, I do the same as what's mentioned; have a nice background image of my boat on my work computers that change every so often. My friends who are aware of my boat are interested in it and what I do with it, even if they are not boaters themselves. I don't bring it up in normal conversation otherwise and those that have problems can just leave me alone.

 

[GJarrett]

"Friends" who are jealous are not friends. Life is short. Find true friends.One true friend is worth 100 of the others who you used to think were "friends".

Congrats on your purchase.

 

[rcknecht]

Marie,

You are looking at this all wrong... Most of my boating and ski friends make me seem like a pauper (some have private jets, and European Ski homes). There is always someone with more money and someone with less. I have no ill feelings for my friends successes, and celebrate their accomplishments... True success in like is not measured by toys or money, it is best measured by good friends and family... Good friends will share in their and your material success, and be happy for you... Share you success with your friends and don't feel any embarrassment for your blessings.

 

[moparlvr4406]

Good advise from all and thank you
I am not in any way embarrassed by success even though as compared to most it is a minor success
hell...its still a near 30 year old boat.
I will be proud of her and take good care of her as she will be mine for a long time to come.
OMG...I think I just got married again :wow:

 

[330DA]

I, too, have not told anyone at work about our boat. Sometimes I get a comment like "you got a lot of sun over the weekend". I just comment that I had a lot of yard work to do.