Lakebum431
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Have you ever just let him run the boat, start to finish, including prep, setting destination, deciding when to go/return, etc., with you just along for the ride? Do you trust him to drive his friends around in the car? Would you leave him alone with the house for a long weekend? How does he handle himself in an emergency?
It's basically a matter of how much you trust him and how well he handles responsibility, as well as the technical skills involved, and it all comes down to you as a person and him as a person, not father/son issues.
First, I agree with your main points. Especially the part about running the boat start to finish by himself as that is by far the most important here. However, let's remember that we are talking about a 20 year old here, not a 16 year old. Most 20 year olds live on their own (either at college or on their own working) so the points about driving around in a car with friends or stayng in the house alone seem completely absurd to me.