Depression

H2ONUT

H2ONUT

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Anyone here suffer any kind of depression? I don't mean the kind that boating season might be over, etc...

Symptoms? What have you done as far as help? Doc, Meds?
 
H2ONUT said:
Anyone here suffer any kind of depression? I don't mean the kind that boating season might be over, etc...

Symptoms? What have you done as far as help? Doc, Meds?
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Are ya feeling a little blue, Mark?
 
Yes, it is me.

Very uncertain about my marriage and losing my family. I have had a major part in the breakdown, but am not the only one to blame. There was no affairs, just a communication barrier and my being impatient and temper (verbal and mental abuse)

I have started marriage counciling, not sure if my wife will attend, or if she does what the outcome will be...

So... it's not like I'm thinking of popping a pill bottle or any other means of self harm. I can't eat, sleep, and just want to bury my head in the sand...
 
H2ONUT said:
Yes, it is me.

Very uncertain about my marriage and losing my family. I have had a major part in the breakdown, but am not the only one to blame. There was no affairs, just a communication barrier and my being impatient and temper (verbal and mental abuse)

I have started marriage counciling, not sure if my wife will attend, or if she does what the outcome will be...

So... it's not like I'm thinking of popping a pill bottle or any other means of self harm. I can't eat, sleep, and just want to bury my head in the sand...
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Well, first off, Im right near you, so if you want to get together for lunch tomorrow, or swing by my house tomorrow night (it is "guy's night" tomorrow, my brother and a few others will be there hanging) let me know.

Secondly, I was divorced about 6 years ago, so I know it can be a tough time. Not saying you WILL get divorced, but you have a decision to make, and you need to either decide you want to make it work, or end it. Being on middle ground is neither healthy nor is it going to get you past this. Can you change? Can she? These are points you MUST consider.

Lastly, there is nothing that doesnt work out in the end. I am a FIRM optimist and believer in you make your own destiny. Life is a roller coaster, and there will always be a point when the coaster must climb the next hill to enjoy the ride again.

You are part of the 50% of marriages that end in divorce. You are not alone.

Chin up. Think rationally, clear your heart, mind and soul, and focus on what you want to do about the marriage, then follow through.
 
ps...im out of here for the day, but ill check back later before I go kick some ass on the ice :grin:
 
Mark,
Depression is nothing to fool with, I have been there. Back in the early 90's I had a employee embesel over 280K. and never got it back.
Best think to do is see the Doc. They have Meds for this kind of illness.
DO IT NOW DON'T WAIT
 
I've been married once before, actually got divorced on my 3 year anniversary :lol:. That was an affair, my X with a high school kid :huh:... whatever...

I want it to work, but am uncertain that she wants to make it work. Much more detail than I care to share on a public forum...

I am actualy off tomorrow Bill, but I have plans to be out fishing for one last time. And tomorrow night, i am working my PT job. Thanks for the invite!
 
thomas said:
Mark,
Depression is nothing to fool with, I have been there. Back in the early 90's I had a employee embesel over 280K. and never got it back.
Best think to do is see the Doc. They have Meds for this kind of illness.
DO IT NOW DON'T WAIT
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I work in a Credit Union, I don't see myself taking $$$, or doing anything else that could land me in jail or 6' under. My real question is, how do you know? What have other people experienced and done...
 
When it hit me, I didn't want to see or talk to anyone. didn't want to eat or drink anything.
Only thing I wanted is to be alone. As you said (put my head in the sand)

This went on for about a good week. Only good thing that happened is that I sure lost some weight.
My wife works at a local hospital, and she new what is was immeditly. She got me in to see the Doc, and damn she was right again.

Stay away from the BOOZE for now.
 
Make an appt to see the dr. immediately. Best thing you can do, is see someone about it. Don't put it off. Call this afternoon!

-VtSeaRay
 
Not a BOOZER at all.

People here at work can even tell that something is bothering me. I don't think I show it, but I guess I do.

I want to be alone, but don't mind hanging out with a few friends or dockmates.

What was the experience going to the doc?

BTW, won't be back on till later tonight. Gotta go to my PT job now. No computer access :smt089
 
Have been thru it with an immediate family member. As others have said it is important to get to a good Doctor as soon as you can. Improper diagnosis made things worse before she was put on the proper medication. There are wonderful med's out there now and it might take a little bit of time to find the best one for you (if you do actually even need any). They have come a long way in the last 10 years. The counciling is a good step as well.. hang in there... things will be fine in time. Best of luck to you during a difficult time.
 
Hey Mark,

I went back and forth on deciding if I would reply to this post.

The reason I did not want to reply is I do not have the experience or knowledge to offer you advice.

At the same time I would like to wish you the best of luck, weather it means you fix or move on from the marriage.

So I hope you take this reply as I am hoping you take it. An internet forum friend wishing you the best of luck Mark.
 
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Many of us have been through some tough situations. My advise is at least visit with a doctor and see where it goes. Don't be afraid that it may change you in a bad way. It can only help make things better.
 
Mark,

Don't automatically assume you have clinical depression and need meds. Temporary depression is very common, especially in cases of marital stress and grief. The guys who suggest you see a doc are likely, but not certainly, right in the assumption that a doc can help, though it ought to be a specialist. Your everyday doc may not be competent to make a diagnosis involving mental illness, temporary or otherwise, but he should be able to refer you to one who can. Sometimes counselling with a pastor can help as well.
 
WOW guys, thanks for the encouraging PM's. They are greatly appreciated.

I guess I have to look at this as I am the one stepping up to the plate, admiting my wrong doings and working thru them to make me a better person. I hope my wife sees this and will make plans to sit with me and our pastor at church.

I found out thru my HR Dept, that there is a group of certified doctors and therapists that will start out with you on the phone and guide you into whatever they feel is best. All of this is free though our work medical plan.

My postings might be a little limited starting tomorrow thru Sunday. Going to enjoy the weather and the weekend for the final time this year. Haul out is next week...

Again, thanks to all that have posted or sent PM's...
 
Wow...I also am not a doctor of any stretch of the imagination.
But, I am close and will always help out a friend in need.
I do keep very strange hours sometimes. PM me if you find youself in or around Stamford anytime..
 
Mark,

For Me... I found out there was a problem when I no longer wanted to do the things that I enjoyed doing and when I became indifferent to the things I used to feel strongly about. I wanted to sleep when I shouldnt have, and weight loss or gain in combination with these other things were good signs that I needed to talk to someone.

On the flip side, try to exercise, Stress management is very important at this time. Also, find reasons to smile, it may sound silly but it helps me keep an even keel, until I can identify and deal with the real issue, whatever it may be.

Your Pastor is a great place to start, you and your family will definitely be in our prayers.
 
You sound very clear-minded and centered about the whole issue. There are a lot of tough times and you are certainly on the right track. Definitely take advantage of the services offered by your company and by any other mental health resources available so you can get things sorted out by somebody competent. It may be a passing situational problem or it could be something underlying, but you don't want to give yourself or a nonprofessional the job of determining that any more than you would want to give yourself a root canal. Let people with the training and whose job it is do that, do what they are there to do. If they prescribe pills for you, take them and trust your provider. You'll be amazed what they can do. With that resource and your friends and your own grit you will get through it. Whatever you do, do not self-medicate with alcohol or anything else, as the rebound is far worse and you don't need to fight the changes they cause in the chemistry in your body on top of everything else. Hang in there and things do always get better with a little time. You will be amazed. Good luck to you.
 
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