Afton, Stillwater Area - Family w/10yr girl

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  1. LUnaCY

    LUnaCY Member

    60
    Aug 28, 2018
    Afton, MN
    310 Sundancer 2002. Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    We purchased our 310 Sundancer with every expectation of sleeping on it most summer weekends and weekdays. We quickly realized that we drastically underestimated our 10 year old daughters grumpiness when boating without friends. Weve brought some of her friends, but are looking for others who boat.

    Anyone out there with similar age girls who are looking for river socials next spring?
     
  2. Maggieiscrazy

    Maggieiscrazy Active Member

    155
    Oct 14, 2016
    Northern Wisconsin
    240 Sundancer
    5.0. Bravo III
    We cruise that same area quite often and our boys (11 and 13) love every minute of it. They get upset when it’s time to go home. Camp out at Kinnickinnic park there’s always a lot of people with children camped out there.
     
  3. northern

    northern Well-Known Member

    Jan 17, 2007
    West coast Vancouver to Alaska
    380 Aft Cabin 1989 GPS and Charts by Nobeltec
    Twin 454 strait shaft
    Parenting is a skill one learns. Advice from your mother might help. I do not think there is any thing you can do. When the trip ends the friends will be there. Perhaps a sudden supervised instant swim in cold water with a life jacket would take her mind off her situation.
    As a nurse at a radar station once told me when I sprained my ankle "Suck it up sunny and do your boots up tighter"
     
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  4. Gofirstclass

    Gofirstclass Well-Known Member GOLD Sponsor

    Apr 20, 2010
    Tri Cities, WA
    1995 550 Sedan Bridge,
    2010 Boston Whaler 130 Super Sport,
    1981 Boston Whaler 130 Sport,
    CAT 3406C's, 580hp.
    When my kids were in that age range I found the solution to those "grumpies" was to invite their friends along. When we had a bowrider they occupied the bow. When we moved up to a 330 Sundancer they occupied the cabin. They weren't interested in scenery, only being away from mom and dad and with their friends.
     
  5. importmonkey

    importmonkey Opinionated Member

    925
    Jul 9, 2015
    Middle River, MD
    2007 44 Sundancer
    QSC 500s
    Man. My girls are 7 and 4. Not looking forward to this at all.
     
  6. Korkie

    Korkie Active Member SILVER Sponsor

    223
    Feb 2, 2016
    Leonardtown, MD Potomac River / Chesapeake Bay
    340 Sundancer 2006, Garmin 7612, xHD Radome
    Merc 496 Mags, Bravo III Drives
    Good luck with all that. Been through that phase. We rafted with others that had kids same age. They ended up having a blast, looking forward to the next outing. Spent most of the time on one bow or the other. The problem was when we would go out and the others did not. Then those grumpies surfaced.
     
  7. Stee6043

    Stee6043 Well-Known Member

    Jun 1, 2015
    West Michigan
    1997 Sundancer 400
    7.4L Gassers
    Time to get her a brother or a sister :)
     
  8. Stee6043

    Stee6043 Well-Known Member

    Jun 1, 2015
    West Michigan
    1997 Sundancer 400
    7.4L Gassers
    Really? My kids are 8, 6 and 3 and these are the best boating days ever. Absolutely the best family time I can imagine putting my money into...
     
  9. LUnaCY

    LUnaCY Member

    60
    Aug 28, 2018
    Afton, MN
    310 Sundancer 2002. Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    That was the intention.

    I grew up on boats and have great memories of all the friends I met beached or tied up. I always looked forward to it. We’ll find people.

    @northern, Ill thought Gunny died this year. I like my kid.
     
  10. fwebster

    fwebster Well-Known Member TECHNICAL Contributor PLATINUM Sponsor

    Oct 6, 2006
    Middle Tennessee ; Panama City Beach, FL
    1996 450DA
    3116 Caterpillars
    Hang in there. You are figuring out a sobering lesson that comes with teens and pre-teens....they are pack animals!
     
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  11. PMC

    PMC Well-Known Member

    Apr 10, 2009
    Long Island, NY
    2001 40 Sedan Bridge
    Cummins 6CTA
    We're in this pre-teen / teen stage with our oldest and they just forget how to have fun. Not sure if they try and overcomplicate maturity to not feel so much like a child, or if it's just the f%&$in phones!!???? Whatever it is, we seem to have the best times meeting up with friends of simmilar ages, or entertain out land friends. For us, this ment less overnights and more day trips.

    Kids were mostly good with this, but i'm not sure if next year I will be so compromising....,the season felt a lot shorter!
     
  12. techmitch

    techmitch Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    May 1, 2008
    Chesapeake Bay, Middle River/Frog Mortar Creek MD.
    1999 270 DA
    Twin 4.3s W/Alpa I Gen II's
    This brings up an interesting question for the O.P., does your 10yr old have a phone?
     
  13. Korkie

    Korkie Active Member SILVER Sponsor

    223
    Feb 2, 2016
    Leonardtown, MD Potomac River / Chesapeake Bay
    340 Sundancer 2006, Garmin 7612, xHD Radome
    Merc 496 Mags, Bravo III Drives
    +1 on "or if it's just the f%&$in phones!!????".
     
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  14. LUnaCY

    LUnaCY Member

    60
    Aug 28, 2018
    Afton, MN
    310 Sundancer 2002. Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    Yes, she has a phone. Partly because Im gone for the occasional week long work trip, partly because we spoil her.

    She is completely addicted to it and we are trying to keep the old school idea of family...hence the boat (which my wife literally told me to buy).
     
  15. techmitch

    techmitch Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    May 1, 2008
    Chesapeake Bay, Middle River/Frog Mortar Creek MD.
    1999 270 DA
    Twin 4.3s W/Alpa I Gen II's
    A 10 yr old with a phone, really?

    1. "partly because we spoil her"

    2. "She is completely addicted to it"

    See, now that wasn't that hard to figure out now was it?
     
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  16. Stee6043

    Stee6043 Well-Known Member

    Jun 1, 2015
    West Michigan
    1997 Sundancer 400
    7.4L Gassers
    I feel like this thread is turning into a call to Dr Laura.
     
  17. techmitch

    techmitch Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    May 1, 2008
    Chesapeake Bay, Middle River/Frog Mortar Creek MD.
    1999 270 DA
    Twin 4.3s W/Alpa I Gen II's
    Not really. We all bitch about "Kids these days" when we should be bitching about the root cause.
     
  18. LUnaCY

    LUnaCY Member

    60
    Aug 28, 2018
    Afton, MN
    310 Sundancer 2002. Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    Mercruiser 5.0 MPI Bravo III
    Awesome. I wasnt bitching about my kids. But thanks for calling out the root cause. Putting effort into family. While you’re demonstrating your stupidity on social media and texting while driving, you could have flipped another burger.
     
  19. techmitch

    techmitch Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    May 1, 2008
    Chesapeake Bay, Middle River/Frog Mortar Creek MD.
    1999 270 DA
    Twin 4.3s W/Alpa I Gen II's
     
  20. Capt. Rusty Higgins

    Capt. Rusty Higgins Active Member PLATINUM Sponsor

    719
    Nov 6, 2006
    Florida
    The yacht delivery captain for Sea Ray Boats Inc.
    mostly 1100hp CAT/MAN
    They may act like they hate it now.....but later in life will tell their friends how their dad took them on the boat all the time! The friends will be saying, dang, I wish my dad did that when I was young.
    Both my daughters learned how to throw a cast net around, and grandkids are learning how to drive the center console and bait their own hooks now. They will reflect on these times when they are throwing dirt clods on me, I hope.

    Capt. R
     
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