Scott,
Please accept my condolences. Such a horrible tragedy. As a retired police officer, I have been to the scene of many such tragedies, and it is always heartbreaking for all. My 29 year old nephew committed suicide in 2015 and, while our family was sitting quietly in the house a couple of days later, just being together, someone muttered, "this really sucks" and another of my nephews said, "It does suck, but it's better when we're together." I saw great wisdom in that comment. It's better to hold hands and stick together. God Bless you and your family.