Pretentious? What say y'all?

Discussion in 'The Tiki Bar' started by Gofirstclass, Oct 16, 2019.

  1. sbw1

    sbw1 Well-Known Member

    Oct 10, 2006
    West Michigan
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    IMG_4230.JPG Boat yards are great levelers in American society. You really never who that is laying under a boat with a sander, covered in dust.
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  2. b_arrington

    b_arrington Well-Known Member GOLD Sponsor

    Feb 21, 2007
    Setauket, NY
    2018 Back Cove 34
    Cummins QSB 6.7 480
    One of a recent defeated school board members was a former school nurse. EVERTHING she put out for elections, or even just personal stuff on Facebook, was sighed as RN. I never saw any connection between the school board and being an RN.

    Similarly a candidate for the local town council has signs campaign signs with RN prominently shown. Like it’s some big advantage to be a nurse when running for government. Nursing is a hard technical job but I don’t see the connection. It just seems like bluster.
  3. Steve S

    Steve S Active Member GOLD Sponsor

    Jun 5, 2007
    Northern IL.
    2000 400 Sedan Bridge with twin CAT 3116's

    2000 340 Sundancer - SOLD!
    210 Monaco 1987 - SOLD!
    Twin Caterpillar 3116's 350 HP straight drives
    Early on in my life I participated in skydiving. We all shared in the sport. There were bricklayers, steelworkers, cops, lawyers, doctors, a millionaire's son and more. We didn’t care. We were just all skydivers.
    Last edited: Oct 17, 2019
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  4. JVM225

    JVM225 Well-Known Member GOLD Sponsor

    Apr 8, 2008
    Farmingdale, NY
    2002 410 Sundancer, Monaco Edition.
    3126 Cats.
    If it’s in a professional atmosphere or on a professional communication then the title should be used.
    In an informal or social atmosphere the use of a title is pretentious.
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  5. Dani-Lu

    Dani-Lu Active Member SILVER Sponsor

    Apr 20, 2007
    Delray Beach, Fl. / Long Island - GSB
    2001 410DA
    3126 Cats
    It shouldn’t bother you unless he is a pretentious asshole. I try to give others the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he is proud, or maybe you should look at it as maybe he is insecure and this title makes him feel more secure with himself. If he is truly pretentious, then he is an ahole and not worth this thread.

    “Capt” Jeff “ex-Cxx” :)
    Last edited: Oct 17, 2019
  6. Gofirstclass

    Gofirstclass Well-Known Member

    Apr 20, 2010
    Tri Cities, WA
    1995 550 Sedan Bridge,
    2010 Boston Whaler 130 Super Sport,
    1981 Boston Whaler 130 Sport,
    CAT 3406C's, 580hp.
    If he insisted on being called Doctor we'd all just ignore that request and if he still insisted we'd just drop him from our Christmas card lists and, more importantly, our party list.

    When someone asks me the "what do you do" question I just reply that I'm a retired boating bum. That seems to cut the direction of that conversation off at the knees.
  7. bmac

    bmac Well-Known Member

    Jan 11, 2008
    Holbrook, NY
    2006 58 Sedan Bridge, Walker Bay Generation 390 RIB w/40hp Yamaha, 2014 Wellcraft 232 CC w/Yamaha
    MAN 900 CRM
    I usually answer the question of "What do you do?" with "As little as possible"....that usually ends with a laugh and on to other things.
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  8. Jaws

    Jaws Active Member GOLD Sponsor

    Nov 13, 2007
    Sarnia, Ontario
    460 Sundancer 2002
    Cummins 8.3 6CTA
    I had to laugh when I saw this thread because I too am a dentist as are a number of CSR participants. In my professional career of 40 years I've never pushed the DDS or Dr title at all. It is a matter of convention however that when dealing in a professional setting then titles or degrees are used and implied. In my office I usually tried to be on a first name basis with my patients, but that was my approach because I found it relaxed them and developed trust. Others preferred more formality but I felt that puts oneself on a pedestal.
    So if someone continues to use their degree or Dr title within social circles, especially when retired, then you be the judge. I don't use it because I feel it's not appropriate socially.
    Our friends at the marina generally know what I did professionally and if they want to ask a health-related question then I am happy to oblige. What I really hate when you meet someone new and they have their finger in their mouth pointing at an maxillary right molar. They are mumbling in a contorted language that of course only a dentist or assistant can understand and you just want to get back to your oil change....
    When people walk by our boat some will make the connection (our kids named the first boat years ago) and ask but I always follow by saying "retired". They get it and usually follow with "nice boat". There, that was painless, wasn't it?
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  9. joeyleggz

    joeyleggz Active Member

    Jan 15, 2013
    long island
    current boat: 1997 sea ray 330 express cruiser
    twin 454's efi
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  10. RollerCoastr

    RollerCoastr Well-Known Member

    Nov 15, 2007
    Cedar Point, OH / Miami, FL / MacRay Harbor, MI
    1997 400DA
    340HP 7.4 Mercruiser Bluewaters
    Garmin 741, 742, 8212, 24HD, Intellian I2
    1999 280BR
    Twin 250HP Merc 350 Alpha Ones
    I don't find anything about that pretentious.

    M.S., Ph.D., D.D.S., D.Sc, M.D., O.D., M.E.
    Above-average genitalia, Much above-average income, intellect and personality
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  11. Gofirstclass

    Gofirstclass Well-Known Member

    Apr 20, 2010
    Tri Cities, WA
    1995 550 Sedan Bridge,
    2010 Boston Whaler 130 Super Sport,
    1981 Boston Whaler 130 Sport,
    CAT 3406C's, 580hp.
    I thought better of a snide comment I was about to make. Sorry.
  12. RollerCoastr

    RollerCoastr Well-Known Member

    Nov 15, 2007
    Cedar Point, OH / Miami, FL / MacRay Harbor, MI
    1997 400DA
    340HP 7.4 Mercruiser Bluewaters
    Garmin 741, 742, 8212, 24HD, Intellian I2
    1999 280BR
    Twin 250HP Merc 350 Alpha Ones
  13. Kwik

    Kwik Member GOLD Sponsor

    Jun 14, 2019
    2004 Sea Ray 240 Sundancer
    2017 F150 Ecoboost 4x4
    Raymarine Axiom 9
    Raymarine Sirius 200 reciever
    5.0 Mercruiser w/Bravo III drives
    I find it odd that so many folks have an issue with discussing what field they are/were in. I'm a humble and thankful industrial electrician and was raised in a local auto repair garage my father owned. I have no string of degrees. But, it can be a reasonable conversation starter when you know very little of a new group of people. I don't judge anyone by their profession and don't expect anyone to judge me of mine. Maybe it is different for those with a string of degrees.
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  14. JimT

    JimT Well-Known Member SILVER Sponsor

    Jul 7, 2009
    Charlotte, NC- LKN
    2010 330 Sundancer
    T-350mags w/BIIIs & Axius, 5.0 kw Kohler
    I don’t have a personal email account. I use my business email for everything. My title appears when I send out business communications. It may bleed over occasionally into personal emails but it’s not intentional. I have it set so my signature automatically appears when I start a new email. After that no signature. No signature on my mobile devices.

    When I retire I would not attach my signature or title to personal email. I agree that would be pretentious.
  15. bobeast

    bobeast Dance the Tide SILVER Sponsor

    Oct 22, 2017
    Isleton, CA
    2002 310DA
    350 MPI w/V-drives
    I'm a computer scientist for a well known software company. Invariably, when I tell folks what I do, the next question is something like. "Hey I have this computer that's acting up and I was wondering..." or "Hey, can you get me a copy of....". I have learned over the years that it is best to dodge the question.
  16. MonacoMike

    MonacoMike Well-Known Member PLATINUM Sponsor

    Sep 15, 2009
    Indiana lakes and Lake Michigan
    2000 Cruisers 3870
    8.2 Mercs
    85 Sea Ray Monaco 197
    260hp Alpha 1
    You gentlemen have stumbled into the tiki bar, we are welcome to discuss most anything we wish here...

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  17. boatman37

    boatman37 Well-Known Member

    Jun 6, 2015
    2006 Crownline 250CR. 5.7 Merc BIII
    Previous: 1986 Sea Ray 250 Sundancer. 260 Merc Alpha 1 Gen 1
    5.7 Merc BIII
    Yep. My B.S. is in IT. My title is System Security Engineer. When I first started out I fixed computers and most of the time it was for free for friends or family. Haven't done that in years but still get people asking me how to fix this or that or when I can fix it for them (my focus now is securing them, not making sure it has enough RAM). Nope. Not interested. The local high schooler could probably fix a computer easier than I could now.
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