I'm the friend with a Boat

How do you handle the "FRIENDS" that only seem to come around when its boating season?

  • Make Them Walk the Plank

    Votes: 5 7.5%

  • Take them boating and make comments about all the work you did over the winter prepping the boat

    Votes: 2 3.0%

  • Just enjoy being out on the water again (and make them pay for all the gas)

    Votes: 13 19.4%

  • Just enjoy being on the water

    Votes: 47 70.1%
  • Total voters
    67
  • Poll closed .
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Legend13 said:
U can have the snow its 87 in sunny Florida
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We've ok Windaus snew
 
We're "booked" that weekend when friends try to invite themselves aboard. We do have a couple who have been on the boat and have tried to invite themselves along a few times. I usually just tell them that we're taking some relatives out that day and it's limited to them. They just don't get it.

I do have a couple of friends who have said they'd like to go out "some day" with us. They're good enough friends that I'll give them a call and suggest a couple of dates when they can join us. They're both retired so week days are not a problem. I'll just suggest to them that they bring a finger food to pass and oh, by the way, I don't allow red wine or red fruits on the boat because they stain so bad.

Most everyone who knows us knows we don't allow red wine on the boat. A neighbor who owns a boat (as opposed to being a "boater" who uses his boat) came out one evening and, unbeknownst to me brought red wine. He and his wife both knew the rule. I asked him to put the cork back in the bottle and stow it and dump out his glass of wine in the sink.

That was their last time on board.
 
Legend13 said:
Hey by the way is there an app for this site
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Legend, you are being somewhat ignored because there is an unofficial "Forum Etiquette" that you are not following and because you are not following this, and may be unaware, I will explain.

You've gone into a post/thread and asked questions, or made comments on a totally unrelated topic....otherwise known as "high-jacking the thread." This is a no-no. It's like walking up to a group of strangers at a party discussing riding mowers and interrupt to ask about wall paint. Not cool. It's always a good thing when we have new members but what you should do is....
  • Go to the top left of the Home Page and click on "Forums". This will give you a list of Topics
  • Click on the one that is appropriate for your question. In this case there is a topic for Electrical, or there is one for your class and year of your boat and there may even be one for 260 Sundancers.
  • If you don't like one of the above topics just go to "General Discussion"
  • When you open any of these topics there will be a button at the top right titled "Post New Thread". Click on that and follow the instructions.
This is the proper way to ask for information and you will have a better chance of getting the answers you are looking for. This is a robust Forum and I have been a member for 13 years. It is full of members that want to help their fellow Sea Ray owner.

Welcome aboard....I hope this has been helpful.
Shawn
 
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I'm just thankful and happy to have friends.
 
We like taking friends out on the boat for the day. We’re lucky in that our friends aren’t just fair weather friends. We hang out with them all year round.
When they ask what they can bring my response is generally “bring what you drink”. Not because I care about supplying the adult beverages, but because it’s tough to keep up with or anticipate exactly what everyone wants to drink, and unlike when we entertain at home, there isn’t enough space on the boat to keep a fully stocked bar with every possible option.
I generally wait until I’m back at my dock after washing down the boat to indulge.
My wife usually puts out a nice spread of food, so because of space limitations, we would rather they didn’t bring that. Our friends all know that she goes overboard with the food, so they understand.
I’ve never asked anyone for money for fuel. Not my thing.
We actually miss out on some activities with friends during boating season because we turn down invitations whenever we can to BBQ’s and other things rather than miss a nice weather weekend on the boat.
 
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I've got no problem with friends showing up announced or otherwise. We boat in a major tourist spot so it's not unusual to have someone "show up" that we know. We're not always available to entertain, but if we've got nothing planned, we normally enjoy the company.
 
Joint Custody said:
All my friends for the most part have boats.
When we do have friends come with us it is for no more than two nights.

We dont expect for them to pay for fuel are food. It is always our pleasure to provide a great no drama time.

Now if I had a friend that said what he said to you. They would immediately put them on the dont invite again list!

Most non boaters have no clue what it cost or what hard work goes into keeping a boat pristine and in good working order let alone the fuel cost and they never will until they own a boat of there own.
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Well Said. I love having people on my boat with us while we are cruising or hanging at a sand bar but if we are friends give me a call over the winter also, Don't just be there when the boat is in the water.
 
JVM225 said:
Not because I care about supplying the adult beverages, but because it’s tough to keep up with or anticipate exactly what everyone wants to drink, and unlike when we entertain at home, there isn’t enough space on the boat to keep a fully stocked bar with every possible option.
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You need a bigger boat! Lol!
 
NorCal Boater said:
Legend, you are being somewhat ignored because there is an unofficial "Forum Etiquette" that you are not following and because you are not following this, and may be unaware, I will explain.

You've gone into a post/thread and asked questions , or made comments on a totally unrelated topic....otherwise known as "high-jacking the thread." This is a no-no. It's like walking up to a group of strangers at a party discussing riding mowers and interrupt to ask about wall paint. Not cool. It's always a good thing when we have new members but what you should do is....
  • Go to the top left of the Home Page and click on "Forums". This will give you a list of Topics
  • Click on the one that is appropriate for your question. In this case there is a topic for Electrical, or there is one for your class and year of your boat and there may even be one for 260 Sundancers.
  • If you don't like one of the above topics just go to "General Discussion"
  • When you open any of these topics there will be a button at the top right titled "Post New Thread". Click on that and follow the instructions.
This is the proper way to ask for information and you will have a better chance of getting the answers you are looking for. This is a robust Forum and I have been a member for 13 years. It is full of members that want to help their fellow Sea Ray owner.

Welcome aboard....I hope this has been helpful.
Shawn
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Thanks for that info. I was having a great forum with 3 others who were very helpful. Then I see your comment which I feel wasn't appropriate
So sorry to all if I offended anyone.
 
Legend13 said:
Thanks for that info. I was having a great forum with 3 others who were very helpful. Then I see your comment which I feel wasn't appropriate
So sorry to all if I offended anyone.
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Its all good. I don't think anyone was offended. We all take some time to get our sea-legs around here.
I will say that @NorCal Boater's response was quite appropriate and classy to boot.
 
Cj2law said:
If you go to the bottom of the threads page there is a icon that says post a new thread. click on that and follow the directions
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Just what is a "threads page"? I have often had the same question (except I use caps and periods when I write - makes it easier to read). I scroll to the bottom of this (what I would consider a thread page) and do not see a "new thread" option.
 
tc410 said:
I would vote for number 3 but it doesn’t fit our profile. We would never accept fuel money from our guests (let alone “make them” pay for fuel).
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Reminds me of a friend of mine who sold to Horse Farms in Ocala. He was invited out on one of the owners Sportfish yacht and being the guy he was, he offered to buy the fuel. He is use to buying maybe 10 or 15 gallons on the boats he usually would go on. He laughed and said he was glad the owner did not take him up on the offer when he hit 300 gallons and was still pumping.
 
I kind of treat it like a bbq in the back yard. Happy to supply the steaks and beer when invited or on an occasional surprise drop in. If they are inviting themselves and/or can afford to bring their own, then they should kick in for their fare share when it is due. Less fortunate and great company no problem. Boat and maintenance are all part of owning a boat and it is out of that equation for me. We do have a couple though that throw 10-20g a year at other travel expenses. I don't really feel that sympathetic with them.
 
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