Fathers...I need help!

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So....my 18yo daughters 20yo boyfriend wants to talk to me and her godfather.... I am feeling stressed and don't know how to handle this. Dads, please, if you've been through this, give me advise. I'm spending the day on my boat tomorrow!
 
She's a little young for marriage, no?


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Whatever he wants, it's gonna cost. I say ask your wife what's up, ask your daughter what's up. If you get the standard "I don't know" line of crap you'll just have to wait until junior shows up with his line of crap. Either way, I see a lot of costly crap in your near future.
 
Let's be positive here. At least he has the social skills and balls to request to communicate with you.
 
Im not a father but I have 2 sisters 20 and 27. My older sister moved out to my grandparents house at 20. The reason being my father didn't know how to deal with her "problems" or "choices" nothing ever to seriouse but all they did was fight. My little sister adores our father like they are best friends. Ive never seen a relationship between a father and daughter so strong. And yet she went through the same problems my older sister did. Again nothing seriouse. Not trying to worry you but if there is a problem no matter how big or how small dont let your anger take over. 1Take the right measures 2respect the guy for having the balls and maturity to tell you himself. And 3 have a sit down with your daughter and talk to her calmly and again take the right measures and actions. To sure up everything if you flip out screem and yell you will only scare her , make her resent you (possibly hate you) ruin your friendship and relationship with her and most of all make her not trust you anymore in turn she wont look to you for help god forbid another problem arises.
Again I hope nothing major happened and maybe he just wants to marry her!! Young love huh lol
Well best of luck and remember most gyms have heavy bags take your anger out there.
Keep us posted
 
I wouldnt just give her away , she should be worth 10 blankets , one rifle , four ponys and 5lbs of beads, and maybe one good bowie knife.
 
Simply listen with an open mind and remember what your thoughts, ideas and situations were when you were 18-20. Don't talk unless they ask you a question, then think about it before you answer.

That's all I got...
 
Sounds like they've been spending more time on your boat than you have.... Grandpa.
 
Sounds like they've been spending more time on your boat than you have.... Grandpa.

Ummmm no! She still thinks my slip neighbor has cameras on his boat, plus...I have the keys, on my key chain!
 
Now, he does have a real job. US Army, for over a year now. He is saying she must go on to collage before any thing else, and he did get points by asking to talk (her godfather is 6'6" ex MP, and payed pro ball for Oakland before he blew his knees). Now he is a 15 year FD pump operator.
 
Now, he does have a real job. US Army, for over a year now. He is saying she must go on to collage before any thing else, and he did get points by asking to talk (her godfather is 6'6" ex MP, and payed pro ball for Oakland before he blew his knees). Now he is a 15 year FD pump operator.
If you like him and i think you do , you will know what to do, telling them no wont work , sounds like he has a good start in life . stay on there good side , grampa , but hey , maybe he wants to borrow you lawn mower.
 
Hey I've gone that route before lol I put a piston to my little sisters x head for raising his hands to her. She came home with a bruised arm once and it never happened again. But that was a little extreme. It was a pellet gun but he never noticed and nobody ever saw him again and he never told her what I did otherwise she probably would have been pretty upset with me. But like I said up above take the right measures for the situation. Give your wife the keys to your arms tho. No jail time needed. I'm young to so I can still tell you us kids will still be kids.
 
This might help...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L5J2eygNmi0


We're heading to the Toronto Boat Show this weekend with another couple that tied the knot @ 17yrs - and now they are in their mid 60's and still on their honeymoon!! It's not the only couple like that that we know either. My wife and I were married when she was 20 and I was 21 and still going strong 31yrs later.

Just goes to show you... you never can tell!! :huh:
 
The boy has respect for your daughter by asking rather than by doing. Your daughter has probably told you what she wants to be. If so after there intentions are known you need to explain that one needs to focus on one thing at a time. There will be time once a good foundation is set. Any way that is what we did and it worked out well. School first. An 18 year old clerk makes $10 an hour. A 22 year old graduate makes $40,000 a year to start.
 
Sounds like he'll be the perfect son in law, you're a lucky man. He's up front and honest and is making the effort to talk to you. I 'd be more concerned if he was doing this behind your back. Good luck
 
Be glad he's coming to you instead of them just running off to elope. Listen patiently, don't say anything unless he asks a question and let him speak his piece.

After he's done, then ask him a few questions about his plans, can he support her, etc.

If he's the kind of kid you'd like for a son in law, invite him into the family and thank him for coming to you.

If he's not the kind of kid you'd like in your family, borrow the piston mentioned in post #19 and hit him upside the head with it.
 

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