Disrespectful dock mate.

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Summerwind

Summerwind

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Looking for some ways to handle a disrespectful dock mate.
On the way back home from the marina my girlfriend told me that Captain Joe asked to see her chest. WTF??!! :smt013
We’ve been nothing but nice to Captain Joe and his wife and this is how our kindness is repaid?
 
Tell Captain Joe to apologize to your wife or you’ll kick his ass in front of his wife.
 
first off be happy your girls hot, next show her the comfort and concern from you she wants.
Then just pull him aside one on one, understand everyone slips with their words. Was alcohol involed, anyone sleep deprived tired. All lead to bad choices. Mention that you would pefer if he kept such comments to himself because they made your girl uncomfortable.

if he doesn't pick up on the nice guy, remind him your kindness isn't to be mistaken for weakness
 
Just tell him that the next time he askes your girlfriend to show her head lights, you will let his wife know. :smt021

Or better yet, ask his wife to show hers. :smt043

What would be even better, go get one of those hooter tee shirts that have the boobs aready painted on them. Have your girlfriend put on two shirts, the boobed one under a regular tee shirt and walk up to him and say, since you wanted to see my GF's boobs, have her pull up the 1st tee shirt with the 2nd one. Make a joke out of it, but get it across that the real thing won't fly.
 
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No alcohol, this was Sunday after I made lunch for us.
 
I would definitely have a conversation with him and draw the line in the sand.

Otherwise, he will continue to cross it.
 
That's not a slight mistake, that was an incredibly rude and offensive comment. You need to demand that he make a sincere apology and to avoid crass behavior in the future. He needs to make that apology to your girlfriend immediately and probably in front of his wife. Then his wife will instruct him in appropriate behavior and keep him in line since she'll be mortified that he said such a thing.

Best regards,
Frank
 
Next time your at the dock have your wife show Joe and his wife her tits. When his wife has a funny look say what's the matter isn't that what you asked for Joe. Then say Joe we can be friends, but the next time you talk to my wife that way I'm going to kick your teeth in.
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Next time you see Joe and his wife ask her to show her tits. IF she gets offended say Joe that's exactly how my wife felt about you asking her the same thing.

I kinda had a similar deal. We were staying on a boat for two weeks with some other couples. After a few days we were all piling into the dingy to get ashore for dinner. One of the other dudes put his hand very high on my ladies thigh, she had a short skirt on. I didn't see it because I was at the front pushing us off. We got back to the boat and she wanted to leave all of a sudden. I said why. She told me so I went up on deck and called the dude out in front of everyone. I got all over his ass. He said I would never do that. I said you did it, now be a man and own it. He just kept back peddling and went below. Needless to say for the next few days everyone on the boat was very quiet and over polite. There weren't anymore problems though.
 
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You're right this is slight mistake but it isnt the end of the world.
I wonder who Captain Joe has less respect for? Me or my girl?
 
My first inclination would be to pop this jacka$$ in the mouth but that might introduce too many problems for you. Stand up to the a-hole and let him know, in no uncertain terms, that what he did will not happen again without consequences. Also, talk to the marina owner/manager and ask that he be moved to another slip.
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Obviously he was being sneaky, since he wasn't making the comment in front of anyone but your girlfriend. I'm sure a "if you do that again, I tell your wife" would change his tune. He should apologize to your girlfriend, in front of you, ASAP.

My first inclination was to ask for pics of your girlfriend and his wife to be sure we were all making sound judgements:lol:

Mike
 
An apology is in order or his wife will know immediately.
 
I'm not in a marina, but if one of my neighbors did something like that, I would 'Definitely' have a 'VERY' serious talk with him....alone....Mano y Mano. In no uncertain terms he would be made to understand that that won't happen again and that he 'WILL' apologize to my wife. I wouldn't say nothing to his wife...IMHO...that's stepping to his level. Our friendship would be over....period....
 
I really don't see the problem, did he not say please?:huh:

Seriously though, He needs to be told that it is not acceptable. My first thought would be to say something to him in a joking manner. See how he responds. Make sure he knows that it is not to happen again. He needs to apologize to your girl. I'd avoid making his wife aware of it unless it continues. Their marital problems are not your concern.
 
I have met a number of guys like this in my life/business. I've never liked any one of them that would do such a thing and deny it to me. On the other hand, I have many good friends who would give it a good try, but never deny it to me. We have a lot of fun, but we all know our limits. I'd confront the guy and see which kind of guy he is.

My best friend in OTS and pilot training was this kind of guy. Nobody else liked him, but once you got to know him, you realize that he was a very kind, sincere, and family oriented guy. He was just brash and a hell of a lot of fun at parties. He died when he hit the ground in his F-16 avoiding a mid-air collision with another. Lived a full life. Died in flames.
 
Your wife is probably never going to feel comfortable around the jerk again. In addition to saying something to him about his inappropriate behavior around your Admiral, I think I would involve the marina management also and see if he couldn't be moved to another dock.

No need to feel uncomfortable at the marina when you are going there to relax.
 
spikedaddy99 said:
Obviously he was being sneaky, since he wasn't making the comment in front of anyone but your girlfriend. I'm sure a "if you do that again, I tell your wife" would change his tune. He should apologize to your girlfriend, in front of you, ASAP.

My first inclination was to ask for pics of your girlfriend and his wife to be sure we were all making sound judgements:lol:

Mike
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My thought too, he's a sneak, he's also a ball buster too. At 1st, I thought he was a nice guy but that only lasted the 1st few weeks but we continued to be nice but this is the deal breaker.

Thanks for all the adivce guys.
 
I tend to be very simplistic when it comes to issues like this. Tell him your wife was offended by his remarks and not to make them again. Then ignore the guy from here on out. You don't need "friends" like him.

Dave
 
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