Not good news for My Dad....

Todd, I'm so sorry to hear about your news on your father, after he's fought the good fight. My brother-in-law's mother passed on today, and we all know that she's better off now.

Hospice care is truly a blessing for both the patient and the family. The hospice workers who help my mother-in-law make her transition in September were angels.

Our prayers are with him, and your family.
 
Agree with Tom. I have seen both my Father and Mother in Law go due to cancer. both times the Hospice people were just such a relief in times of sadness and wondering what to do next. They took care of just about everything in the last days of their life. Angels indeed.

Malignant Melanoma. A good friend of mine who runs a Scenic shop here found out that his wife has this. She had a seizure on Mothers Day and had been in perfect health with regular checkups. I never knew that Melanoma would be something you could get on your brain, you usually think of it as a skin disease.

Best wishes through this difficult time Todd. Think of your Dad everytime you are out on the boat. My Dad got me into boating and I always think of him and smile when I am "In the Wind".
 
Thanks Everyone.
Mo and I with all 4 kids visited my Dad and Mom this afternoon in the "skilled nursing" center he is in. The Gravity hit my older kids and emotions ran high. It was good for me to be able to have them with us and tell Papa how they felt and let the love precipitate down. All my Dad wanted was to go home. Mo and I discussed it over the evening and I called my Mom and offered to bring him here; where we all can help in taking care. She thought about it for the last few hours, called me a couple hours ago and said she will call hospice tomorrow and we'll move him home.
With the assistance there and my brother and I doing whatever we can, it will make him happy and I think allow my Mom to rest properly, knowing he's not it some place sharing a room with no privacy, little dignity and certainly not how he wants to go out.

It will be good....I hope.

I really appreciate the support. I can float our boat in the tears that have been shed I think. His friends really are stunned and somehow remain stubborn to accept the reality, but generous in their visits to simply to come and see my Dad.

Thanks again....I really do mean it.
 
Todd, Just a thought here, talk to the Hospice folks and see if they will come to the house and give some assistance. A fellow I work with here lost his dad last year and they came to the house and helped out. I do not know how they work there but they did do that here.
 
Todd,
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. When my Mother in Law was in her last days, we moved her home and had a hospice nurse do house calls to help. She passed peacefully where she should have been, so kudo's to you for taking on this responsibility.
 
Being home with Hospice care is the way to go. I lost my wife at age 35 to cancer, but she was able to spend her last few weeks at home thanks to Hospice. In some ways, it helped my kids and I cope a little better also. Maybe because we were there to help.

My prayers are with you and your family.
 
Thanks again guys. My Mom is calling the Doctor today to initiate that first step for getting Hospice care and moving him back home. Yes we already were informed that Hospice will come by the house. My Wife and I talked last night quite a bit. She lost her Mom to Cancer when she was 17. She really felt out of the loop and is glad for us that he's able to go home and we can share in this phase.
 
Todd, taking dad home for hospice is a big responsibility as you will soon find out. My sis was in home care till the last day and she was admitted to a very nice hospice inn. She past away 20 hours later. My BIL and family could not take care of her needs the last couple of days at home. Particularly with pain management. In NY, Hospice only is available 4 hours per day. Not sure what the time is here. I also know each case is different and brain cancer is most times pain free or close to it compared to other cancers. Again, your family is in our prayers. I truely understand your situation as you know.
 
Todd, it saddens me just reading this and 'hearing' how emotional and difficult this is for you and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
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Todd, taking dad home for hospice is a big responsibility as you will soon find out. My sis was in home care till the last day and she was admitted to a very nice hospice inn. She past away 20 hours later. My BIL and family could not take care of her needs the last couple of days at home. Particularly with pain management. In NY, Hospice only is available 4 hours per day. Not sure what the time is here. I also know each case is different and brain cancer is most times pain free or close to it compared to other cancers. Again, your family is in our prayers. I truely understand your situation as you know.
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mrsrobinson said:
Todd, it saddens me just reading this and 'hearing' how emotional and difficult this is for you and your family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Hey Guys,
Thank you again. Luckily my Dad is in no pain, but is somewhat uncomfortable. But I think we all are after laying around all day and night.
I appreciate everyone allowing me to vent here and the 2 other boating sites I enjoy. The outpouring of support and brotherhood really is nice and I thank you for letting me therapuetically spill my guts here and hear your stories, really does comfort the emotions.
 
Just food for thought. My sis asked for a tail gate at her wake. So we had several cases of champaign, white and red wine in the parking lot. We even got some nice wine glasses, not plastic... (found they were almost the same price as plastic)... The funeral home didn't want any booze inside. It was a great way to send her off. Kinda dulled the pain a bit...

Got many stories from her friends I had not known before. In fact, I introduced myself to everyone I did not know and asked for a story about sis. I got some great ones that I will cherish forever...
 
Yeah Doug, I know for a fact there will be some spirit filled "celebration of Life" stuff. My Dad has been heavily involved with the Masons, Shriners and that brotherhood. I expect there will be an interesting outpouring of stories and some "Daddy Pops" tipped in his honor.
Again Doug, thanks for your frame of reference and even though it's so fresh for you, and as tough as it may be for you and Lea, I welcome your ideas and thoughts.
 
My prayers are with you as well. Be comforted in knowing you have an extended boating family that cares.
 
Todd:

I lost my Dad pretty quickly and WAAAAY too early (55), so my experience is almost nothing like yours. Still sucks, but please know that the pain does pass and you obviously have a lifetime of fond memories that will sustain you in the months and years ahead.

Please know that you, Mighty Mo and the kids are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Bill
 
Todd,
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. It is a blessing that you and Mo can take your dad in during his time of greatest need. My mother-in-law died at age 60 a few years ago from a rare cancer. She was in home hospice for 6 months (she was tough). My wife was with her almost every night. The night Ma died, my wife didn't want to go over to the house, but I insisted because I knew she would regret not being there if she died that night (we knew the end was near). My wife was there when her mom drew her last breath, and is grateful that she was. It is a rare opportunity to comfort a loved one in their final moments.
 
Hey Todd:
I'm new to this boating thing but not new to what your going through. Be strong. Our prayers and good thoughts are with you and your family.
Bill
 
Thanks again everyone.
Yes, later today we are moving him from the Skilled Nursing home to my parents home, not mine. My Mom decided with our help along with Hospice assistance she can do it and my Dad really wants to be home.

Thanks a ton for all the positive support and encouraging words
 
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