It's Been a Devastating Year

Mike, sorry that you have had to experience these issues. It's am awful thing to go through and when you know that it could have been dealt with earlier and with better focus it's maddening. My wife and I both lost our mothers 25-30 years ago primarily because the care that they were given at the start didn't keep up with the spread of cancer and the doctors were clearly practicing. We miss them both but have tons of great memories with them as we continue on.
Cancer does suck and there has been progress in treating it over time, it's just not 100% at this stage. Hug your mom and keep your dads memories close to you.
 
So sorry for your loss... I too have missed your beautiful pictures.
 
My sincere condolences to you and family. Probably almost everyone on this forum has lost someone to this horrible disease,myself included. As far as Doctors go, that’s another thread altogether
 
Mike, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Cancer is very devastating in many ways and affects more than just the patient. My prayers are with you and may the Lord comfort you and bring you peace.

Cancer took my father back in '82 when he was only 59, and I have had many thoughts of the missed times together. Cancer also took his mother and brother, also at 59 years old. I celebrated when I hit 60. I also lost my sister to ovarian cancer when she was 26.... and I am 4 years clean since my cancer fight. I understand all of your points and frustrations.

Blessings, Steve
 
Thank you all for posting such kind words here. You guys are making me tear up again. I knew most if not all of you have experience with this horrible disease and that I would be in good company. That's why I thought it important to come on here and tell my story. And yes as Carpediem said ...so so so important to get additional opinions and to be your own best advocate. And you MUST tell the doctors what YOU want them to do. You must demand it. Maybe additional early treatment could have helped my dad ...and maybe not. But we'll never know. It's going to take a long time for me to get past that fact alone. My gut tells me that he didn't have to die though and that more could have been done to curtail the spread. But oh well ...spilt milk I suppose.

And just to clarify ..the selling of the boat is not because of this. There are other factors involved. My son is getting older and we plan to start travelling again and show him the world. That and his involvement in extracurricular activities and me coaching his teams etc ...free time is largely disappearing. If we aren't using the boat like we should, we need to sell and so call it a temporary reprieve. I don't think I will leave this forum though.

Anyway thank you again fellas. Your words mean more than you know. God bless.

-MProd.
 
I totally get and agree with the 'sell the boat plan' Mike. Way too many boats sitting in marinas costing families money and becoming a curse. Better to sell her, move on to other interests and buy another down the road when it suites your lifestyle again. We did the motor home thing and boat for a while but found the boat thing fit our fancy better so the motor home went bye bye. Can't say for certain that another is not in our future but only if boating runs its course.
Carpe Diem
 
I am sorry for your loss and everything you and your family had to go thru. You and your family will be in my prayers.

My GFs father retired and was then diagnosed with bladder cancer. He goes in regularly for some kind of procedure where they place the chemo on the spots in his bladder directly. I hope he is ok, though I am concerned he is not, especially after reading your story.
 
So very sorry Mike @M Prod . My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my father in Feb 2019. Not from cancer, but his decline was fast and very hard as dementia was involved along with heart disease issues. Cancer is indiscriminate evil, and far too common.

I hope that with the passage of time, your sorrow and anger will be replaced with the fond memories. It takes time though.

I was looking for gloves the other day now that winter has arrived, and when I rooted through my bin of gloves, I found my dad's favorite leather gloves. Mom cried when she gave them to me 2 years ago. She said she couldn't' throw them out and hoped I would use them. They have been in that bin for two years. I knew they were there, but I couldn't throw them out, and I couldn't wear them either. But this year, I put them on, and it felt good. I felt him with me.

Time heals even deep cuts of sorrow.
 
Mike, I'm sorry for your loss and the suffering you all had to endure until he died. I also have cancer, it's prostate cancer that has metastasized throughout my body and according to my oncologist I will have it until the day I drop anchor for the last time.

I feel guilty at times because after I got done with the chemo I have felt pretty good. No pain, no nausea, nothing. When I hear a story such as yours it makes me feel bad because I don't really feel like I have cancer.

Most days I feel "normal". I don't have the endurance I used to have, nor the strength. The highlight of my day is my morning walk with Sailor, my Black Lab therapy dog. He's about as old as I am (in dog years) and our half mile walk is about as much as each of us can do.

My cancer is the reason we sold the boat. Two friends and I cruised it to Seattle where I tearfully said goodbye to her.
(Want to go for a boat ride? | Club Sea Ray)

So, Mike if your heart tells you to sell the boat, go for it. When one door closes another one opens.
 
Mike, very sorry to hear of this. Our family is just now going through this with my wife's daughter, 29. Brain surgery is scheduled for next week sometime. They were at the neuro oncologist today. Unfortunately it is in her brain, lungs, ovaries, liver, and who knows where else. Mother of two.
Please people get yourselves checked if something is amiss.
And my wife is a two time breast cancer survivor.
 
Been through it as well, very sorry to hear all this. Very sorry for your loss, prayers are with you and your family.
 
Dear Mike, I'm saddened and angry reading your Dad's last days. To some healthcare professionals, we are just another patient/chart#. It sounds like they could have gotten after this a lot quicker than they did. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. Big hugs Brother...

12 years ago my Dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer, Dr.'s telling him he'd die of old age and not from cancer. After 11 years of chemo, radiation, hormone therapies, etc. he passed from cancer in April 2020. I was devastated. I have been in my home for 30 years, there are 2 large additions, 2 car carport, 900 sq ft back deck with 600 sq ft covered all thanks to my Dad. I can't go anywhere in my home without seeing my Dad's handprints. We had to wait a full year just to have his memorial because of covid. My companion of 14+ years, Odie our corgi got sick in October 2020 and was gone the following month. I know there are lots of people/families suffering these days from the loss of a loved one(s), but when it's your loss it hurts like hell. I have passed the 1 year anniversary of both and still want to pick up the phone and call my Dad and I still hear Odie barking from time to time.

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Mike, I'm sorry for your loss and the suffering you all had to endure until he died. I also have cancer, it's prostate cancer that has metastasized throughout my body and according to my oncologist I will have it until the day I drop anchor for the last time.

I feel guilty at times because after I got done with the chemo I have felt pretty good. No pain, no nausea, nothing. When I hear a story such as yours it makes me feel bad because I don't really feel like I have cancer.

Most days I feel "normal". I don't have the endurance I used to have, nor the strength. The highlight of my day is my morning walk with Sailor, my Black Lab therapy dog. He's about as old as I am (in dog years) and our half mile walk is about as much as each of us can do.

My cancer is the reason we sold the boat. Two friends and I cruised it to Seattle where I tearfully said goodbye to her.
(Want to go for a boat ride? | Club Sea Ray)
 
Damn Mike, so sorry for your loss. My Dad had prostate ca., removed it surgically, and 9 years and 11 months his PSA crept up again so he had radiation. He's 78 and still going strong. I haven't seen my parents in over 2 years, but get to see them in 2 weeks.
 
"He made an appointment with a urologist who diagnosed him with overactive bladder and prescribed him some meds. The blood continued and so additional meds were prescribed. This went on for a couple of months. It wasn't until June 25 that a CT scan was ordered to 'see if meds are working' at which point a tumor was found in his bladder. Don't worry the urologist said ...we can most likely remove it through surgery and you'll be fine."

As a physician I find this very troubling. This is inexcusable, especially for a urologist....blood in urine calls for an immediate cystoscopy. End of story.
 
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