yes JimG you are exactly right! i went home just before you posted this and after doing some other searching and that was the problem, its a 90 amp fuse right on the starter that blew, went by my local boat shop and picked one up for 30 bucks and problem solved. everything now works as designed...
so after making a dumb move yesterday this is my issue, I was diagnosing why my captain's call exhaust solenoids wasn't working correctly, they would hold open but wouldn't open on their own, i recently bought this boat about a month ago and it never worked right, so after doing some tests...